this is a vent and that's all it is!! Don't read to much into it or take it literally.
I'm venting, so please don't come at me with how I'm mean, and unsympathetic. This is the only place I can vent and not have people look at me like I'm a three headed monster.
I guess I'll start there... my SD11 has been such a pain in the ass lately. Just incredibly clingy with her dad. Baby talk, and massively immature. Socially she's closer to a 5 or 6 year old lately. I get that she's going through changes and hormones are a factor. I know when kids go through this part of life, some do regress because they know they are growing up and things are changing and sometimes change is scary. They are trapped between being a teenager and mature enough to be held to a higher standard, and a little kid who still needs to have the security of knowing parents will take care of everything.
also her bio whore is back on a bad path and there has been less and less communication. This makes Sd feel abandoned all over again. I get it. She's going through a really rough period and I do feel bad for her. I've been in her shoes and I know it sucks.
But Jesus Christ! It doesn't make it easier to deal with!!!
omg! She's been doing a lot of whining, poor me, everyone picks on me crap. And needing to curl up in daddy's lap like a 5 year old.
We have a rule of no screen time for an hour before bed. She comes out and puts a blanket over her head, rolls around on the couch because she wants to "snuggle my daddy" ( I just threw up a litter there) but he's watching tv. So she's constantly trying to get a peek at the tv and moving around to find a new position when she gets busted.We have a couch... that's it. So there isn't really room for 3 of us to sit comfortably. But that's another vent for another time. She still thinks she takes up as much space as she did when she was a baby. She has ZERO concept of body and spacial awareness. It's annoying. If I say something, she looks at me like a kicked a puppy.
now this is not the first time we have been through this. we dealt with it when biowhore was incarcerated. she gets clingy with her dad, she sees me as someone who is taking him away from her. I'm a threat in her eyes. So she gets super disrespectful, back talk, Dirty looks, and ignoring me when I speak. Plus I'm the mom figure, so what anger she has towards her biowhore that she can't express to her because there is almost no contact ( we don't even know what state she lives in now), gets transferred to me. I'm the mom figure she can take out the anger she has toward her mom on. To sum it up, she gets all needy and clingy with her dad and treats me like shit.
if I express annoyance or say something , I'm an asshole. if I make her feel bad, she's going to be a depressed teenager and make bad choices. At least that's the crap DH says. Stop coddling her!! Just because her moms a total fuck up, is not an excuse to let her act like a toddler! going through a hard time is not an excuse to be an ass!!!
her emotional immaturity is so hard to deal with sometimes. I just want to tell her to grow the fuck up and stop being a little bitch! Or lock her in her room and not let her out until she's 30. Whichever will be effective.
im being sarcastic.. so don't anyone freak out and say Im comitting child abuse. It's just venting. I would not actually do that.
I saw a comedian recently on you tube. She was talking about the challenges of raising daughters and the emotional drama. She was talking about an incident when her daughter screamed "I hate you !" And the moms response was "I'm so glad you said it first because I feel the same way!" I laughed my ass off because I could totally relate to that
I have fought like hell to get the courts to keep her safe and keep her mother with limited contact. I did it because I do love her and I want her to be safe. But sometimes I really don't like her.
I do have to say though that dealing with this crap, really makes me appreciate my foster parents a lot more and how much I probably put them through. Someone probably should have told me I was an asshole though... I probably would have deserved it and it may have been the kick in the ass I needed.
anywho, that's my vent. I would love if people would share their parenting frustrations. Knowing it's not just me helps.