Wow, our Social Worker is Awful
So after SD5 came back from BM's house with a black eye Memorial Day weekend and CPS got involved they did their initial investigation and said she was good to go out of state with BM for 3 weeks which I found odd but whatever. After SD got back a social worker went right out to daycare to talk to her about the trip.
About a week into the trip out of state BM texted DH saying she thought SD needed to see someone about her tantrums and that she couldn't manage SD's behavior. Apparently all the doctors appointments, developmental testing, and diagnoses doesn't count as "seeing someone about her tantrums."
So, a couple of weeks after SD gets back from Colorado the social worker calls to say she wants to meet with us. I assumed it was to do follow up on the investigation. At the meeting the worker started asking questions about SD's behavior and what problems we have with her etc. Then, out of the blue, she asks how much time my DD9 spends with her father and demands to see her room and states that she needs to see her to make sure she is ok and that she will be coming out to the house once a month to check on both of the kids and going out to daycare once a month to make sure both of the kids are ok. What about BM you ask? Oh, well if SD happens to be with BM on a week day we should let the social worker know because it would be helpful to see how BM interacts with SD but it is not a priority for CPS to send a social worker out to her house on a weekend when she has SD.
It is not a priority for CPS to send a social worker to the house when the abuse victim is with her abuser but it is necessary to ask how often my daughter, who has absolutely nothing to do with this situation, sees her father. Are you fucking kidding me?
In other news, the speech therapist told me today that she is no longer certain about SD's diagnosis of a speech delay as it is quite obvious to her that SD is fucking with her head and playing her so she isn't sure how much of the speech issues she sees are actual issues and how much is just manipulative behavior. At 5 years old. I knew she could be extremely manipulative but I didn't think it was bad enough for developmental professionals to be fooled by it. And I have absolutely no idea how to curb that.