So today was my second day picking up STBH's daughter from BM to deliver her to school. Remember she begged us to do this because a) her car wasn't running and couldn't afford to have it fixed and b) she could not afford the gas to get her to school (1 mile).
When I arrive, BM is putting daughter in her car, see's me, and they get out. As I am putting daughter in my car, BM begins to tell me that her attorney had asked for STBH to release ANOTHER 5k from the proceeds of the sale of the marital home (after 10k was released to secure apartment). He refused, and told his attorney that he would discuss no financial settlment until she agreed on 50% parenting time. She says, until she gets more money she will not let him take her daughter beyond his visitation.
Now, we had been prepared to simply take her to court over it, and we would likely win at this point. But when we went to the exchange last wknd, she BEGGED us to take her to school, and kept saying her daughters mental health was suffering because she needed to see her daddy more! We said yes, of course. We will take her for five days this week, and I will take her to school.
Result? STBH has been joyous at the thought of having his daughter, and once again, his hopes are shattered. She does this all the time. To BM, their child is no more than carrot to dangle in front of STBH to get more money.
3pm I retrieve daughter from school to deliver to mom again. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HER???She keeps dropping the notion that her attorney is a county judge here. I have done a google search and found that there IS a county judge with the same name but he appears to be in his eighties, so this would be her atty's father. Is there any way I can find out for sure?
Its really sick, I mean it just seems an awful lot like blackmail. He can't SEE his daughter until he makes an agreement to give her more money??? He is current on CS, and obviously we actually give more (school, clothing, pool membership).
I am going to have to face this woman this afternoon and can NOT avoid speaking to her when I do - so what tack should I take?