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Tired of BMs Games- SD15 Needs A Swift Kick in The Rear!

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Submitted by laurabunny on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 12:11am

I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem, but I've had it with BMs favorite little game. She schedules the kids for a variety of very expensive activities- most notably, a choir group that costs $8000 / yr for SD15 along with soccer, football, baseball, etc. Of course, it just so happens that all of the practices are on our days with the SKIDS. We only get them 2 or 3 days a week as it is, and so it means that we pick them up from school at 2:30, get homework done and get them a snack, they play for a few minutes, then it's time for practice for whatever sport or whatever they are doing. We are expected to take them to sports, which interrupts our entire family evening and because she schedules stuff for all 3 days we have them we can't plan anything else. And then this overpriced choir thing means that we have to drive SD15 45 minutes one way to go and sing for an hour, then drive her back home. DH wants to be "supportive", and so he never says no. We had a major blowout tonight because I had a horrible day and ended up sobbing and he patted me on the back and then left to take SD15 to her choir. The best part is that SD15 constantly complains about how much she hates going to choir and how "stupid" it is and that she doesn't want to go, but just to make BM happy, I got left by myself and nearly suicidal so that the entitled little brat wouldn't have to miss an activity that she hates anyway. I'm so sick of this. I say that we stop driving her- BM can drive her or she can make arrangements to carpool with other kids in the area. DH won't go for it. Ideas?

Oh- and the icing on the cake. BM is so broke that she can't afford to dress the kids properly or provide medical care, pay the rent, or keep the lights on, but she can drop $8000 on choir? Am I the only one that thinks this is a little sketchy? Thanks for letting me vent all.

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Submitted by Kes on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 2:51am

The BM and SD are not your problem - your DH is. Until he sees the light and puts his foot down regarding these ridiculously expensive activities, you are basically stuffed. I had a similar problem for the first few years I was with my DH, he caved in to whatever BM demanded - but eventually he saw the truth in what I was saying - that only by being assertive was the situation going to change.

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Submitted by newmom01 on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 9:13am

Yeah you see that video on you ube, where the judge was "whipping" not beating his daughter and she just puts it out. I said he was probably doing it because he is a judge and he does not want his daughter to turn out like the people he sees on a daily basis.

Plus on the video you can here him say: "what happened to you, you you to be a good little girl now you lie, cheat, and steal" That was not a beating it was just a whipping, and most of it was caused by her not turning around on the bed so he could hit her on the bottom. So whatever got hit, got hit because SHE WOULD NOT LISTEN.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 9:40am

Did you watch AND listen to the video. That was not a spanking. The asshole judge even used the word beating. How many times did you use the F word? That man was out of control. And the sorry mother allowed it to happen.

http://youtu.be/HqzBlDckX6Q

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Submitted by skylarksms on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 9:53am

The only people I know who thought that was deserved - were severely beaten as children themselves. To abuse survivors, that might not be a big deal.

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Submitted by Auteur on Thu, 11/03/2011 - 3:13pm

DH needs to realize that this is simply another opportunity for PAS. After all, Princess and Prince can't spend any bonding/one on one time with dad if she/he is kicking a soccer ball around.

Here's the scoop:

1. BM knows that kids can't bond with dad if they are preoccupied with multiple extra curricular activities on HIS time

2. BM likes the expense of the activities as they tend to UP the CS

3. BM knows that after such activities they are likely to be tired and cranky; so kids can't have a "good time" at dad's (something that is desirable to the PASinator BM)

4. Lord knows they aren't bonding with SM either (BONUS!!!)

5. It's fun to control biodad and SM; making them zoom here and there at the drop of a hat on BM's say so (aka the activities schedule)