Mother in law loves his ex way too much!
My Mother in law to be (in 2 weeks) still favours his ex of 4 years and I just don't get it, I mean really don't get it. My H2b J has a son with his ex and his ex has a daughter from a previous one night stand, we have both of the kids at weekends, pay for them and just bought a bigger house so they could have a room each. I also have 2 girls and we have been together 4 years living as a family. The ex has 3 kids now all one night stands with different men, she sits them in front of TV every spare moment, does nothing fun with them and feeds them crap. The step daughter still wets the bed at 10 and she has only just taken her to see a doctor. The ex works 16 hours per week, just enough to claim maximum benefits from the state and has all school holidays off work paid, her house is paid for in full by the state, she also does not declare our money to the state in order to pocket the cash in full.
My MIL adores her, she is always handing her money, has the kids for weeks in the holidays, buys them stuff all the time and will not have a bad word said against her. Recently it was MIL's special birthday family dinner and his ex was guest of honour just 4 weeks before our wedding... I put my foot down and we did not go and J told her why but she does not know what my problem is. This is the best part, we move out of our current house next week (4 days before our wedding)and we are both working full time, my kids have to come to work with me and I am trying to deal with a big church wedding for all his family to enjoy, our new house is not ready so we are homeless for the week before our big day and not once has she asked if I need any help, not once offered to have my kids for a day let alone weeks like his kids, and can't even ask how I am.... I hate her and I have to sit on a top table with her in 2 weeks.
I just know she goes off running to his ex and fills her in on our life so its really hard trying to contain things to a degree where she has nothing to report. I am so angry that she is just going to turn up at our wedding after doing literally nothing to help. I have no family at all so I am really alone in all of this, his ex on the other hand has her own mother running around after her and his Mother too, there is also the mother of baby number 3 running around helping her....where did I go wrong?