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Teenage stepsons suck and their father enables it...

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Boys. Gggrrrr... If it weren't for the boys' behavior and the things Loghead is lettting them get away with, my summer would be darn near perfect!

Loghead and I have a crazy summer system, that works most of the time. Since we're both teachers, we have the summer off. Loghead has his log cabin construction business, and is away about 4-5 days a week working at the construction site, 2.5 hours away. Sometimes his boys go help him, but not always.

I have a part time job at a local department store MTW nights. My parents have a summer house at a local tourist destination, which is 25 minutes from where I work. The part time job is about 30 minutes from our house. My parents have cable; we don't. Princess can't get around with her cast on her right foot; but at my parents' house, she has some freedom, because she can drive around the neighborhood and to the local restaurant/snack shack in the golf cart.

So Gibby, Princess and I spend about 4-5 days a week with my parents. We can boat and play during the day, my parents can watch Gibby while I'm at work, and Princess is enjoying spending time hanging out in the evenings with my parents.

Lazy Boye 16 has a job at the grocery store 30 minutes from our house. PITA 17 works for a local rancher and helps on his farm. They also have lots of basketball practices and summer tournaments, so they don't always get to go with Loghead to work on the construction site.

None of the skids go visit their mother anymore for longer than 48 hours at a time....

so with my schedule and Loghead's schedule, that means there are a few nights a week when the boys might be unsupervised...

Now, we have good boys, to a certain degree... All their friends are on the basketball team. They come over, have bonfires, grill hotdogs, play video games, go down to the creek swimming- typical redneck, country boy stuff. I have never seen any evidence of drinking. They all know their ball coach would KILL them!

And my in-laws are 5 minutes down the road, so I know they check on the boys when we are gone. In fact, PITA stays over there a lot, so when he gets off work, he can help them around their house and farm.

The boys aren't great about checking in with the cell phone calls or text messages. Usually it takes a threat text of "answer within the next hour or your phone service is being cut off" before they answer...

The part that pisses me off is they way they act when the adult figures ARE home. The boys still come and go as they please. They're rude, make messes in the kitchen at 2 am, and leave for work at 8 am. Now, I just bag up the mess, take it down and leave it in their room for them to deal with when they get back... but still.

And the worst is when I am home but Loghead is not. We usually try to plan to be home the same nights, but it doesn't always work that way...

In the last few days, when I returned home, I discovered some of money and gift cards had been stolen; our stash of condoms had been taken, and there was girl underwear in the wash that did not belong to me or Princess.

Friday night, Lazy Boye got his phone shut off for cursing at me and being an ass to Loghead. But Loghead was outta town, and Lazy boye was being a real pain in my side. he asked to go to his girlfriend's house, and I told him he could, but he had to be home by midnight.

HE NEVER CAME HOME! When I got up Saturday morning to go to my scrapbook day, he'd never come home. On my way outta town, I drove to the girlfriend's house- not there either. Called husband and grandparents. No one knew where he was.

Since this is getting REALLY LONG (sorry), I'll cut to the end. Loghead didn't do anything about it. kid says he fell asleep at her house, no big deal, went to work the next morning... since his phone was off, he had no way to call, blah blah blah

I finally told Loghead there needed to be rules and consequences, and if he didn't agree, I was no longer doing anything for the boys that I didn't want to do... That if I didn't have a say as the woman in the house, I was no longer responsible for anything where the boys were concerned; I wouldn't pay for anything they need or want; and I sure as hell wouldn't be taking care of any "surprise!" babies his sons might produce.

Loghead didn't really have an answer for me. Lazy Boye still seems to be coming and going as he wants, so I'm guessing Loghead didn't crack down too hard, but his phone service still isn't on...