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It's been since early August since we had a real date. The deal was, I got a night out once a month. Money was not required, but we had to be OUT of the house, TOGETHER. I find I get bitter and resentful after about 5 weeks without one on one time with Loghead.

I think I was able to pass some of it by this fall. The house is different without Princess here. Packing her off to college was one of the best things I ever did for my marriage. LOL

PITA 16 has friends over most weekends, but they hide out in the basement. For whatever reasons, Lazy Boye 15 has been having his mom pick him up after school on Fridays, and he's there about 3 weekends a month.

I've been so busy with back to school, and this health class Gibby and I are taking. And we have been making more FAMILY time to help Gibby get on track, and family time was part of the deal too.

But I miss being with my dear husband. Just us. When I don't have to be a mom, a teacher, a housewife, a personal trainer.

So I've been nagging at him (yes, terrible, I know) for the last three weekends. Last weekend, I got so fed up, I just told him it was fine. If he really didn't want to spend time with me, why did I want to spend time with him anyway...

All day Friday, I kept reminding myself not to get all worked up about. I never said a word. eh comes in Friday night from work and says he called my SIL to babysit Gibby, but she wasn't home. "I get points for trying, right?"

No not really. If you really wanted to go out, you would have arranged earlier int he week... And don't say, "it's a man thing," because for many years he proved he was perfectly capable of arranging a sitter for the skids...

About 8 pm, I just crashed. The whole week caught up to me, as did health class. he came in and wanted to watch "Hee haw." I swear, he has it on DVR. We snuggled on the couch as I drifted in and out of sleep. After about 2 hours, I got up to take out my contacts and go to bed. next thing I know its 5 am, and he's not in bed with me.

He fell asleep on the living room floor.

Later this morning, I'm getting ready to take Gibby for our Saturday hike, and ask Loghead to go along. He says he can't, cause he has plans to meet up with Princess this afternoon. !!!!! You're going to meet "our" daughter, and you don't even invite me? You act like you made these plans days ago?

Whatever. I didn't say anything. I just say it sounds like fun, and grab water bottles and leave for the hike.

I'm pissed- on so many levels. He can make time for her, but not me? He can arrange in advance to meet her, but thinks about a sitter the day of? And her? She was too busy to meet me earlier this week, when she really needed a female point of view?

Ugh.

That man better remember our anniversary is in 2 weeks... And he better make plans in ADVANCE!