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lannel717's picture

Sad I am to the end of my rope. I honestly don't know what else to do. I am soooo sick of my bratty stepdaughter getting by with EVERYTHING while my son is constantly in trouble. My stepbrat doesn't live with us, but we have her almost every wknd, and weeks at a time in the simmer. I try really hard to "stand" her, but I'm not a fake person, and it's really getting harder and harder to tolerate her. She's 6 and my son is 7. My husband and I took a parenting course to try to be better stepparents. So far it has probably gotten worse. She has been throwing tantrums like a freakin 2 yr to get her way...and guess what?! It works! My husband and I have been married almost a year, but have been together for 2. I hoped by now that things would be better but sadly they are not. Don't get me wrong, my son is no angel, but how can he be expected to be when he sees that she gets by with everything and he's constantly in trouble. The "weird" thing is, at school he's PERFECT! Never been in trouble...rewarded for being the best reader in his entire school (just finished 1st grade), well behaved and his teacher clearly said he's her favorite. Stepbrat is always in trouble with her teacher because of her hateful attitude, rolling her eyes, backtalking, hitting and refusing to do what she's told....and yet my son is the one thats the problem?...yeah i dont think so! Please let me know if u feel are living my life...What do I do?

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livinthedream's picture

Youre doing a good job of hangin in there. I know its difficult to let your own child be exposed to all the dysfunctional behavior that occurs in your home. Try really hard to keep the focus on loving yourself first & enjoying your life amidst the chaos & confusion. You deserve to be happy every moment of your life. Its great that you went to counseling with your DH, I hope that the counselors told you that having a date night together is important to a new marriage & that taking time for yourself away from all the kids will help you to become a great mom for everyone. Dont forget that your important & your happiness is paramount to the well being of the family unit. Indulge yourself in whatever kind of luxury you can affors...maybe just a few moments to take a bath & get away from it all with a fresh perspective that will help you deal with it all.

"To thine own self be true"