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DH just called me from his Adequate Cause hearing! OMG OMG OMG. I can't believe it!!!!

LaMareOssa's picture

So, DH had a hearing this morning-Adequate cause- This is just a hearing infront of a judge with DH and BM. The judge reads all the evidence and decides right then and there if DH has a good enough reason to change custody. BM didn't show. BM didn't show to her Adequate cause for her other two kids(her parents gained custody)

Anyway..DH calls and says "Hey." I'm hesistent and I say "Hey..?" Kinda weary. I hear fear in his voice, hes on the verge of crying and I'm thinking OMG SD goes back to BM.

DH says..Well...I have 20 minutes to head to the Law Library in the court house, fill out and print Motion for Child Support and Motion for default. He goes on to tell me that "Because BM didn't show today, the judge is going to SIGN THE FINAL PARENTING PLAN and Sign the Motion for Default. The judge doesn't want me missing all this work with all these court hearings, especially since the other parent obviously doesn't care enough to show up or even file a written response after [the judge] ordered it"

OMG...I can not believe it. I know BM can easily file her written (late) response and file to have the final parenting plan revoked, but BM ever getting custody of any of her children ever again is Highly unlikely.

I can't believe this is happening. After dealing with this crazed woman for 6 years, after all of the heartbreak she has caused, after all of the alienation, all of the unprovoked violence and after all of her denials of time for DH...She has blatantly given up. She has shown her true colors..She doesn't care about her children. They were just objects to her.

It's truely her loss. Yes, SD should have her bio mom in her life, but in the end..SD is much safer and better off with DH and I.

I will write an update later today Smile

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Anon2009's picture

Congratulations! I will also say, though, my heart aches for your SD. Just keep on giving her as much love and support as you possibly can, and if this isn't already happening, DH could look into getting her counseling.

Best of luck to you all Smile

LaMareOssa's picture

We will. Thank you Anon. You have read and replied to my blogs from day one and all of your support and advice has been greatly appreciated! Smile

giveitago's picture

Congratulations!! Awesome stuff, you know of course that you will not see a penny in child support too...right? We were just so glad to get custody of ours that we said to hell with the money, the kids were more important to us. I am pleased for you.

LaMareOssa's picture

Oh yeah. DH doesn't even want the money, but because of state statutes someone HAS to pay. She is being ordered $50.00 a month. LOL DH will never see a dime of it and thats ok. He doesn't want it, and if she does send it, he's putting it in a trust for SD for when shes 18 or 21. Smile

skylarksms's picture

Congrats. I am jealous though. I can't believe that you (and Former) have BMs that would just give up like that.

My skids would have been WAY better off with pretty much ANYONE else besides their mother. But she would never let them go.

She makes her money off children. She uses her own for the CS she gets. She also uses her own to take care of the foster kids that she "fosters" but is too lazy to parent...just like her own kids.

Then you have children raising children, which IMO is NEVER a good thing.

LaMareOssa's picture

Oh, BM here used $400 from her ex husband and 250 from DH to keep her pretty blond hair blond and to buy shit for herself. Her kids never saw a penny. I know your feeling of jealousy, I have read stories on here where the BM's gave up, or were so unfit that they couldnt fight and I wished that was our BM.

I NEVER would have thought in a million years that BM would NEVER file a response. I was waiting every. single. day. to get served with her papers. I was waiting and VERY anxious to read her reply to my declaration. I really wanted to see what she said..and when her time to serve DH ran out, I was shocked! I still am shocked! Like I said, I wouldn't have guessed she should give up. Thats why it took DH so long to file because he thought she would fight tooth and nail.

overit2's picture

Your typical golden uterus is what they are...kids are posessions and means of control, nothing more....once the kids stop feeding the supply they need they are discarded. Typical narcissistic tendencies.

LaMare...congratulations, this is big, good to see some justice stories on this board lately!!!

BSgoinon's picture

Now that is some awesome news! I am happy for SD and for yu. Sad that it had to come to this, but it really is what is best.

VioletsareBlue's picture

Awesome!