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Lady.Tremaine's picture

Well folks things have taken a turn for the worse.

My mother had a brain bleed stroke and hasn't woken up. I'm back home feeling guilty leaving my sister with this mess.

Her odds are very very low. Like my sister basically being asked when to pull the plug low.  I keep wanting to ask my mother for advice only to realize I can't.

So I'm focusing on some of the positives of what this has shown in people

- my father and mother are long divorced. He was at first very upset we asked for physical distance from the hospital but has become more concerned and less a stubborn bastard.

- my step mother has reached out frequently to both my sister and I.

- my aunt who frankly I dislike for good reason has been helping my sister clean the house etc during this. In the back of my mind I believe she may have ulterior motives but I'm not going to judge that yet as she's able to help more than I can as I had to go back to work

- this chased that last remaining Disney dad out of my spouse. Maybe it's because he knows I can't be the step mom I was for awhile but with me blankly staring at walls that man is keeping the kids in line for once without a single nudge. We told them today and it was awkward to explain to an 8 and 5 year old but it had to be done as I've been out of commission.

She was pretty young ( early 60s) never smoke. Maybe ordered a sangria every 2 years only to hate the taste. I can't believe she might be gone.

Hold your loved ones close as this was and still is a giant shock






lieutenant_dad's picture

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. We're here if you need this space.

SMto3's picture

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. This touches me as I am also close to my mother, who is in her sixties and never smoked and barely had alcohol. Please vent to us as much as you want. 

justmakingthebest's picture

I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family, you are all in my prayers. 

--figureditout--'s picture


My dad passed away on December 31 from a brain bleed. He was in poor health and in hospice care, so he went at home. 

I am one of those who believes that they can hear you through the fog, so if you can't be there physically, have someone put you on speaker for the "I love yous."

I am sorry that you are going through this.

bearcub25's picture

I am so so sorry.  My siblings and I had to go through this a few years ago and I just feel so much sympathy for you and your family.

Crspyew's picture

This is such sad news and so hard for you and your family.  Be kind to yourself.  I am keeping your family in my thoughts.  

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Sending warm thoughts your way. This is so difficult, been there I know. I second having your sister put the phone on speaker so you can talk to your mom. It helps to say all thing things you need to.