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Lady.Tremaine's picture

Summary of my steplife - eldest SD8 loves being at our small house every other weekend. SD5 rarely spent nights over 

Husband was a total douche on loads of occasions ( see past blogs)

Well two weeks ago I booked a house on a canal for DHs bday. Both kids were invited and had their own room and despite sleeping with mommie dearest they were more than happy to have privacy. Youngest stayed with us the whole time and didn't cry for mommie once.

Meanwhile child catcher mommie dearest was blowing up phones . I guess that part of the codependency was figured out.

This was our weekend and for the first time ever both kids stayed both nights in our little loft. DH took us to a pub / family restaurant for mother's day. We had the kids make a cool craft for their mom. And yet she kept pushing for calls and FaceTime from Youngest.

DH and I have come a long way of how he parents, treats me etc. But I brought up we really need something legal in case their mom does something dumb. Well he got very pissy.Im guessing don't rock the boat syndrome. I brought up mutual mediation and he was still pissy.

Compromise I made up : fine..but legally if ever asked I believe you and her have a legal agreement and will act as such. I'm not going to jail if we go out of state with the kids. 

It's hilarious to me because both DH and BM are contract workers . If they had an order I could have the kids on insurance but let's not rock that boat I guess.

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Lady.Tremaine's picture

I should add it's awesome to have both girls overnight finally. We went out with DHs family and it was awesome. The youngest deserved to finally have fun with us instead if being glued to her mom

JRI's picture

Sounds like you are making progress.  We steps need every little bit of progress we can get.  Good for you. 

tog redux's picture

Maybe SD5 is growing up a bit. If you have nothing legal, then BM isn't entitled to any phone calls. Let her speak to the kids once over the weekend and then ignore (but a keep a log of her harassing phone calls and texts in case she goes to court). Mothers like this are terrified their kids will love dad and stepmom more. They can't get that kids can love both sides.