BM is taking the dumbass crown. DH may be the princess
Truly. I'm honestly beyond words at this point. Like wow. Ok.
Well DH picks up SD7 today. Brings her home in in a meeting. When I get out and start cooking
" BMs sister is bringing their cousins to visit. "
Naturally I have to hide the rage. But when I step out on the porch I quietly go into how ridiculous this is. BMs clan lives two states away. Traveling is not ideal right now.
" Well they are already driving there so what can I do ?"
And then he said some not nice things in a not nice tone regarding me caring. Lovely.
SD acting a little weird all night. Probably because she heard DH yelling at me. Outside I calmly told him that he will never speak to me in that tone again. Never ever when the kids are close. Because guess what DH? That's what she'll think is ok for her future spouses to do.
After SD left I told DH he needs to grow a pair. Probably not the best wording but it's true. While he can't control BM she seeks advice from him constantly. This would be a situation to say this whole idea is not reasonable.
We are doing ok. We bounce back but literally every fight is about this woman he didn't marry who always turns to us while treating our family like crap
Oh the big happy trade off? We get the kids for Easter. Even though that was already agreed upon
I need my heart out of this mess. And yes he still has plans to have the kids over after cross country BM gang come through. He really doesn't care about my safety then I guess. ( I have some major unresolved blood pressure and kidney issues)
In a weird way I sort of hope I get it and it kills me. It would show him to make better choices if another one comes around.
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You Are IRREPLACEABLE!
Please, please - no matter how bad it is, you are a priceless, irreplaceable woman. I understand that's where the mind goes, and feel for you.
Sending good vibes your way - hoping you get some relief soon. (((HUGS)))
(((Extra-HUGS!)))
Thanks stepulti ( use that
Thanks stepulti ( use that one as a new nickname- sounds like a transformer)
I'll be ok. I'll try my best but jesus.. I never realized how dumb people could be
Edit: honestly thank you for caring. I'm going through a lot and despite me being a sarcastic prick kind words can do some much more
You're wrong - he likely
You're wrong - he likely wouldn't learn a thing.
Do you have somewhere else to go? Don't put yourself at risk because BM is stupid and your H is inconsiderate and weak.
All of my family and friends
All of my family and friends are in a very more highly quarantined state.
Hotels will likely not be an option soon.
Your DH is just as much a
Your DH is just as much a dumbass as BM, and he should never speak to you like that. Ever.
Lady Tremaine I sincerely hope you do NOT get sick, and especially not badly if you do happen to catch the virus. Please do everything you can to protect yourself from your DH & BM’s stupidity. I also hope these parents smarten up & stop passing their kids around like everything is normal right now.
Hard agree . Hence why DH is
Hard agree . Hence why DH is now princess of dumbass
If BM isn't following social
If BM isn't following social distancing and other guidelines amd brings visitors home, DH shouldn't be bringing kids to your house. When he takes kids back, they got to stay there. They shouldn't be going back and forth
Why is he allowed to raise his voice and be nasty? Doesn't matter if kids are there or not. We teach people how to treat us. I know now isn't a good time to move out or what not. But covid will be done at some point.
please don't wish you get the virus and die. This man won't learn anything anyways. And he isn't worth it.
There's a few dozen blogs on
There's a few dozen blogs on visitation . Truly I'm not sure how to feel but I think him not speaking up for his kids regarding their cousins and aunt visiting is so... Tucking in his manhood?
"DH, due to your own
"DH, due to your own inability to put boundaries on this situation, the kids are quarantined from this house until this is over. If you want visitation, you do it elsewhere. Allowing them to be exposed to other people was irresponsible, and don't give me any excuses about BM. This is the bed you BOTH have chosen to lay in. I'm not risking my health so that you FEEL like a good father when you weren't ACTING like a good father and sticking up to protect your kids. This isn't a debatable issue. You leave this house for visitation, and you don't come back until at least 14 days after you've visited them. The locks will be changed if necessary. I'm not f**king around with this."
Be bold, be calm, and have a locksmith on speed dial.
This^^^^^
A couple things:
Those cousins Are Not DHs Family. Was he saying they might come over?
If even my DH who has no boundaries, runs roughshod over mine, and excused the skids for everything for years can find a boundary during this (he banned his own filthy kids), your DH can find a boundary.
And I think most importantly he should NEVER talk to you like that, ever, not in public and not in private.
With the rules about no evictions and people not moving now you could maybe get a small place yourself and negotiate low rent.
Oof. I wish this one but the
Oof. I wish this one but the hotels here will be shut down soon and I'll be damned if anyone infects his dad. ( Him staying with my FIL and SIL)
If we were told by the government to self isolate
no way would hubby just tell me last minute his ex-niece and nephews or family/friends are coming over. I mean if you aren’t a member of that household you should not be coming over...
i shouldn’t have my private space invaded by non family or non-members of my household. I’m lucky at least my husband gets that and past few years we might just have his dad or eldest sister come over 1-2 times a year but they are lovely and helpful people so its ok but never would hubby just say “oh 5-10 of my family members are sleeping over!!” Because my only response would be “great you can clean the house and cook for them as i’m busy studying for uni and caring for our 2 young kids”
I should clear up confusion
I should clear up confusion here. BM is having her sister visit there with all the kids ( cousins and the stepkids) . No way in hell is a strange kid coming through my door
My issue is that since the kids cousins and aunt are visiting them the skids being here may cause an issue as they will be with folks who have traveled