SIL isn't moving out or paying us
We all talked last night and SIL made her situation perfectly clear. Her lawyer actually told her not to get an apartment or a job because that would hurt her chances of being able to move when court is over. He said it'll look like she's establishing herself in the area. I was completely dumbfounded. She's been in this state since JANUARY and done everything she could to move court along, but obviously that can't go any faster than it already is. So how would getting a job to support herself establish her in this state??
Not to mention the fact that her driver's license is FL, plates are FL, EVERYTHING IS FL. She only lived in the other state for THREE MONTHS. But a job here would be too much, okay. I'm pissed at her and her dumbass lawyer at this point. The way I see things she's already going to be stuck in FL, her lawyer just doesn't want to break the bad news to her because he's probably scared she'll run off and find a new lawyer. I was a liberal arts major though, so what do I know.
She said she's looking for a part-time job so that she can start paying us rent, because I guess a part-time job is safer for her than a full-time one. Whatever. I'm about a week away from contacting her lawyer to let him know that she can live with him until this is all settled.
As soon as DH heard that her getting a job could hurt her chances in court he shut up. He cares about his nieces and he's too scared to jeopardize SIL's chances of getting full custody. No amount of me telling him that FL DOES NOT give full custody to parents is going to change his mind. They have him convinced that SIL is going to get everything she wants, which he should know by now is not how FL judges handle things. BM barely got anything she asked for.
The way we left the conversation last night was SIL wanted to know how she could help us financially. DH didn't say anything because like I said, he's too worried about things that aren't his responsibility. So I didn't say anything. SIL told us to think about it, so later today DH and I are going to have a serious talk about the fact that she cannot simply live with us indefinitely because her lawyer told her it was a good idea. And she needs to have a deadline to get a job. Plenty of places around here are hiring like crazy because of COVID, so I know she could find a part-time job if she wanted one. It'd be McDonald's or Dollar General, sure, but it'd be a job.