A repeat of last time
I just need to get this stuff off my chest because I carry DH's worries around a lot with no one to talk to.
DH has two sons from two different women, the first son was born when DH was only 17. It was in a different state and he didn't know his rights at the time, so he ended up with zero custody. The state gave the custody to the grandparents (BM's parents), and now DH hasn't seen that son since he was born (13 years ago). The court system completely failed him, and he trusted verbal agreements between himself and BM's parents, which ended up being false promises. He knows he was young and dumb, and even though it was 13 years ago I still have to comfort him sometimes, especially on SS's birthday.
Now the second BM is threatening to take SS4 away, and I'm probably more scared than DH is. He knows his rights a lot better this time, and my aunt is a paralegal so she's been helping us get everything together to go to court. DH is worried, of course, but I have it worse I think. We've saved so much money to be able to buy a house when our apartment lease is up in a year, but I know if this thing goes south we'll have to use that money to try and get SS back.
I love DH and SS, and I would never try to stop DH from getting his son back just because I want a house instead of a one-bedroom apartment. However, I can't help but feel a little resentment. But honestly, if BM jets off to a different state and we never see SS again I would feel absolutely terrible. I hope things don't repeat what happened to DH last time, because I'm not sure if he could handle it. And that means I wouldn't be able to handle it, because we're eachothers support system.
I just hate having to sit and wait around for BM to get served with the papers so we can find out what her next move will be.