OT - update to SIL living with us
EDIT: I called DH today and talked to him about all of this and SIL overheard the conversation. She told their mom about it who called DH. I expected a big sh*t show to ensue but surprisingly it went better than I thought. MIL claims that SIL can't get a job because if she did then this state would legally be her place of residence, which would keep her from being able to move back to the state she wants to live at. DH explained that this state already is SIL's place of residence whether or not she has a job. No one cares. His family isn't that smart. Then MIL offered to give us some money to cover expenses and SIL will be giving us rent money as well. Still no word on whether she'll eventually move out or if she's going to keep waiting on court, but at least it's a step in the right direction. We're still discussing the parenting issue with her tonight when I get home from work.
I talked to DH and he completely agrees with me and a lot of what was commented on my last blog. The strain that SIL puts on us is mostly through her complete lack of parenting, but there is a financial component too. So we agreed that we would sit down and talk to her tonight since there would be no kids home. We're going to give her two options. One would be to pay us rent (an amount we haven't really figured out yet) and take more time cleaning up after and parenting her kids. Or she can have a few months to find another place to live. Considering the cost of living in our area (at least $1000 a month for a one bedroom apartment) she will probably take the first option.
I feel so relieved that DH and I are on the same page.
If I could get some advice on what to charge her I would really appreciate it. I don't want to overcharge. And I don't mind sharing my financial situation with you all. Mortgage + electricity + water = $1,100 a month give or take. SIL does help with groceries occasionally (when her food stamps card gets refilled) and she eats out a lot so I don't really think I should take groceries into account. But if I did that would be around $300 - 500 a month.
So with SIL sleeping on our couch and in SS's room when he's not here, what would be a fair price to charge her?