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ladybug3's picture

DH had a job interview today that went really well. He also got a phone call from another company that he applied to, as well as an interview scheduled for Sunday. I'm very hopeful about all of this, because I know DH is a hard worker when he wants to be. I am trying so hard to wait things out and not get swallowed up by resentment though, because DH keeps making comments like, "Well, it's a good job, but I don't know if it's really what I want to do." I know he won't turn the job down (if he gets it) because of all of the threats I've made regarding selling his motorcycle, but I just wish he was taking this as seriously as I am. 

BM was feeling nice yesterday so she invited DH to SS's birthday party that's happening in a little over a week. Thankfully I didn't need to tell DH not to go, he told BM no all on his own like a big boy. Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck in that movie 13 going on 30, except my DH is the 13 year old in the adult's body. 


Capricorn63's picture

I am going to give you a very big piece of advice.

Do not let this fall into a pattern.  You will be resentful and angry.

If I had known then, what I know now about men with poor work history and poor work stability.  I would have to say that if it happens again, I would quit my job the minute that my Husband lost / quit his.

ladybug3's picture

For sure. When he was working he would call me up a lot to complain, which I was more than happy to listen to. A few times he told me he was going to quit, and I told him how much that stressed me out because it would put us in a really bad position. He told me he would never quit his job without another one lined up. 

I don't mind if he bounces from job to job, I just don't want to be lied to again. I will not tolerate him quitting another job unless he 1) has a good reason, and 2) has another job lined up.

Cover1W's picture

And don't pay for one iota more than what is necessary. Not one penny above the standard living needs.

SayNoSkidsChitChat's picture

My ex husband hated working but was content with me working 40+ a week. He quit a few jobs and would sit on his ass. I should have left him then before he put his hands on me. Ugh.

futurobrillante99's picture

Beware of men with a strong and stable work history but poor money management skills, too!!

ladybug3's picture

Oh he's terrible with money, that's why I'm in charge of it. We both like it that way. He wants to save money, he just doesn't know how.

ladybug3's picture

He hates his car so he would probably be happy about that lol... no I hold the motorcycle over his head because he loves that thing but he knows it isn't a necessity and I have no problem selling it. 

GreenerPastures's picture

Poor work history and picky about what he wants to do. He's out of the house and not allowed back until he can get his life together and help out paying some bills (and a lot more than just that). I hope it works out for y'all.

hereiam's picture

He will just have to take a job that he doesn't really want to do (like most of us) and while working said job, he can continue to look for something he does want to do.

My DH got laid off years ago, due to his place of employment closing, and it took awhile for him to land his current job (that he likes) but he did work jobs that he didn't like in the meantime. It's called LIFE.

ladybug3's picture

Exactly. I used to say this to him a lot before I realized it really wasn't getting through.