I feel like I'm SM to 3 kids now
I've decided that my heart is too big and I need a reverse Grinch ASAP so my heart can grow three sizes too small.
My SIL is living with us because her baby daddy is an a-hole (see OT - SIL's ex got arrested). She has two little girls, 4 and 2. She has them three days on, three days off. I love my SIL, don't get me wrong, but when her girls are at our house she almost completely ignores them. She makes sure they're fed and important stuff like that, but otherwise she's on her phone sitting on our couch. There is zero parenting going on.
I'm having flash backs to when DH and I first got married and I naively started parenting SS and got sucked into being the sole disciplinarian when he was at our house. A couple of heart-to-heart conversations later and DH got the message that I wouldn't do that anymore.
Now my SIL is doing the same thing DH used to do. She sits back and lets other people parent her kids. And they're completely wild. I've never used the word "feral" to describe a kid before but the two-year-old... she's crazy, even for a toddler. The two of them run wild through the house and when I get home from work there's food all over the floor and toys everywhere.
The four-year-old is smart and sassy, and not in a cute way. My DH once told her to stop doing something and she rolled her eyes at him and said, "Why don't you worry about your own business with ladybug?" What kind of four-year-old talks like that to an adult? For whatever reason she listens to me pretty well, but she does this whiny manipulative thing that gets under my skin.
Don't get me started on the two-year-old. When I say she's crazy, I mean trying to talk to her is like talking to an alien. She runs around giggling with her eyes rolling in the back of her head. I was trying to put her to bed one night and she kept cackling like a maniac and rolling her eyes in the back of her head and throwing her body around. Scared the sh*t out of me.
Throughout all of this insanity their mom sits on our couch talking to different guys and will occasionally yell at her kids. She rarely gets off the couch so they don't pay her any attention. And don't get me wrong, I love my nieces. They have their moments. I'm just not their mother and I am absolutely tired of my SIL not doing a single thing to parent.
The saddest part about all of it is that DH and I got sucked into being "parents" because SIL won't even get off the couch for bedtime. These little girls, even the two-year-old, were going to bed without so much as a kiss goodnight. DH and I always sing songs to SS and read him a story so of course we included the girls. The rest just kind of followed from there. They've been living with us for almost 5 months and I am losing my mind.