BM sounds willing to compromise... how sweet.
If you aren't familiar with my situation, BM is a total nut-job. DH and her were never married, so he was constantly at her whim for seeing SS. They had a verbal agreement that he would see SS every weekend from Friday afternoon to Monday morning. Occasionally BM would change the plan last minute (literally DH would get a text "I'm five minutes away from your house, put SS's shoes on").
Before filing the paternity action he tried to talk it out with her. He told her over and over again that by not sticking to a schedule she was forcing him to take her to court. She didn't care, and she threatened him every time he brought up court.
He finally filed, and she was still beligerant and unwilling to talk. The first time she reached out to "talk it out" with him was when she was faced with filling out the mountain of paperwork to respond to his petition. He told her no, she'd had her chance.
When they went to CO mediation she was rude and wouldn't compromise one iota. DH tried to compromise with her, but she wouldn't budge on the parenting plan she had filed. All of this could have ended at mediation, but she refused.
Fast-forward to the case management conference. The magistrate told her that not letting DH see SS was a major no-no, and it would land her in a lot of trouble if she kept it up. BM was also told that both parties would be able to call witnesses and present evidence, which DH said freaked her out. She got upset and tried arguing with the magistrate that it was supposed to be a closed trial.
Today we got the paperwork in the mail detailing what we would need to bring to trial, and what would have to be filed 14 days before trial. It's a lot and it's complicated, but DH and I are smart (thank God).
Cue the obligatory text from BM about working it out. "I would like to speak with you about agreeing on a parenting plan with SS. Any witnesses on your end is pointless and in general I don't think it'll solve anything and just be a waste of everyone's time."
Yeah, and just like every other time they tried to work things out before he filed, all she will be interested in is trying to threaten him into doing what she wants. By bringing up that witnesses "on his end" will be pointless, she's trying to intimidate him. For some reason she thinks it will work.