BM is back to keeping SS from us. She got upset because one night she insisted on calling DH to talk to SS but he had no service. Apparently to her, our sh*tty phone plan is an inexcusable offense. Neither one of us care, we know this is going to end eventually.
We all know that BM is SS's favorite, but since the process of going to court has started we've been seeing a hell of a lot more PAS. Yesterday DH went to pick up SS, and when he got there SS threw a fit saying he didn't want to leave mommy's house. Then, in front of SS, BM says, "You normally don't want him on Thursdays anyway, just go home." SS immediately mimics her, "Yeah daddy, you don't want me on Thursdays anyway!"
It breaks my heart that this sweet little boy is going to hate DH one day and he won't even know why.
Started off with DH picking up SS Friday night. She wasn't home so he had to wait, and when she finally showed up she demanded he talk to her about court. He wouldn't, as he's always told her, so he got SS's shoes on and went to leave. BM shoved him on his way out, so he'll be meeting her public places to exchange SS from now on.
DH had to work all weekend (unexpectedly), so I got to take SS to a bunch of fun places. We went to the park with my SIL, BIL, and their two daughters, and we went to the beach. Not a single peep from BM all weekend, and SS barely mentioned her either.
I texted DH while he was at work to tell him how much it bothers me when he engages with BM. He texted back and tried to say he only called her to ask to talk to SS, which I already knew was b.s. because he had asked her about the text message she sent. So I told him I couldn't stop him from talking to her, but that every time he did it was degrading our marriage. Then I said it was inappropriate for him to be talking to his ex about anything other than SS.
I've written about this a little in the past, but something happened again today. Since BM got served with the papers it's been almost complete radio silence from her, which has been so nice. Then out of the blue today she texted DH, "I understand you completely." He was at work but he took the time to call her to find out what she meant. Even though I've told him a million times I hate it when he talks to her about anything other than SS.
She filed her own paternity packet almost a week ago, and we still haven't been served with the papers yet. I'm starting to think that either the fee deterred her or she was too dumb to realize she needs to go to the sheriff's department to pay them $40 to have them serve DH with the papers. Either way it's starting to look like nothing's going to happen because she only has two more days to contest and we definitely should've gotten something by now. So if we haven't gotten anything by Wednesday then DH will call the courthouse to see what to do next.
DH had a job interview today that went really well. He also got a phone call from another company that he applied to, as well as an interview scheduled for Sunday. I'm very hopeful about all of this, because I know DH is a hard worker when he wants to be.
The title is kind of a joke, kind of not. Some of you may know that DH and I are in the process of taking BM to court for a time-sharing CO. We had to pay $320 to file the paperwork and issue a summons to BM. She finally decided she was going to respond, so she filled out her paperwork and went down to the courthouse. She texted DH "You suck." He called her, like a dumba**, to find out what she was talking about.
On top of all of the stress DH and I are under because of BM's crazy sh-t and going to court, DH got fired from his job on Friday. Long story short he had to go to the hospital on Tuesday and he told his boss, boss was fine with it. DH goes back to work on Wednesday, boss doesn't say anything. Thursday was the holiday, and then when he went to work Friday boss let him work for four hours before sending him home.
BM is a wacka-do. She told DH that she actually is going to contest the paternity packet, which isn't all that surprising. Then she said she wants SS every other weekend, or one weekend a month, whichever is more convenient for her. Whatever.