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Just had to let the skids have it - Fed up with their entitled attitudes! *Another long-ish rant*

lac925's picture

So, I guess I'm posting every other weekend because it seems like whenever the skids leave, I have to get right on to Steptalk to vent!

Anyway, as you guessed it, we just had the skids over - they just went home not 5 mins ago and I'm enjoying the peace and quiet Smile They just really got on my nerves this weekend, so much so that I had to put my two cents in (as juvenile as it is).

Yesterday (Saturday), we went to run our usual errands - get gas, get drinks from Tim Horton's, pick up something for supper. During the drive down to the gas station, the skids would not stop bouncing around in the back of the van (the kind that makes it feel like the whole car is moving when it isn't - I actually started to get a little motion sickness!), AND throwing little wadded up pieces of paper (one hit the dashboard while DH was driving!). Because of this, they were not allowed into KFC when DH went to pick up some supper. BS6, having behaved during the drive, was allowed to go with him. Well, while they were inside the restaurant, SS11 and SD9 started talking badly about BS6 - and the phrase "friggin' stupid" was thrown around quite a bit as well :jawdrop: They didn't think I heard them because I had my headphones on for most of the trip - but I heard them, and I just couldn't let it go. I told them (in not such a quiet, calm tone) WHY they weren't allowed in with DH and how their behaviour is not acceptable just because, with THEIR own choices, they are denied certain privileges. They can't behave the way they do and still expect to get things (ie. treats, getting to go into the restaurant with DH, etc.). SS11 said it was unfair, to which I lost it AGAIN and told him that it was totally fair because BS6 was behaving and not acting up. I then went on (and I probably shouldn't have) to say that this wasn't "Trashville" (where they live), and that certain behaviours are not acceptable OUTSIDE of "Trashville". SD9 said that "Trashville" is a "nice city", and I couldn't even begin to start on THAT subject, so I just stopped. I just told DH how they were behaving in his absence and that was that.

Then TODAY, we ALL got into it about the bad decisions their mother makes (she moved out of her low-rent townhouse complex because of the "negative environment", but just last week - not even a full week at the new house - she went BACK with the skids and SS11 got into a fight with another kid there: apparently, the other kid called him a name so SS11 threw him DOWN and started beating him up! And the police were called!), and how the kids call DH "Donor" ("SPERM donor", which the skids think is FUNNY! I didn't even know what SPERM was at THAT age!) and just stupid stuff - it felt more like juvenile competition really ("Our house is better", "No, OUR house is better", blah blah blah). DH was just teasing the kids, but you know that BM will hear about it. We're expecting the angry text messages to come in on DH's way back home.

I know it's not right to get into these things with the kids, so pls don't start with the lectures. It's just that SS11 has really gotten on my nerves this weekend. His whole attitude STINKS and there's nothing we can really so about it. He's starting to tell BS6 to "shutup", which I will NOT stand for in my own house. I'm looking forward to the days when SS11 won't want to come over anymore; and believe me, I won't be arguing! It just his whole...being that repulses me now - he hangs all over his sister, won't do anything without her, he lurks outside the bathroom while she's in there, he threatens people/calls them names when he doesn't get his way...UGH! He's been diagnosed with ADHD, but the pills he takes when he's over here are useless. And top that all off with beating up some kid who called him a NAME! Whatever happened to "sticks and stones"??? But then again, this is the same woman who taught her kids from a young age "If someone hits you, hit them harder!" :jawdrop:

IDK SS11 is in for a very rough life if he doesn't get his act together soon - he goes into highschool in two years, or rather, they're going to push him on into highschool. The boy still can't read fluently - oh and get this: recently, he won first place in his school's Special Olympics! He's the only one participating who isn't physically handicapped! :jawdrop: Of COURSE, he's going to win first place! These other parents (of physically handicapped children) should boycott or petition to get him thrown out - it's not fair to the other kids who really ARE handicapped! SS11 should be running in his own level of sports, not against wheelchair-bound kids! Even BM told DH that the other parents were giving her dirty looks :jawdrop: SMDH SS11 and SD9 really DO need to be in some kind of organized sport/activity - I told DH we'll PAY for them to go into SOMETHING if BM doesn't want to bother!

Anyway, that's MY rant for another lovely weekend! How did YOURS go???

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Stepbell's picture

I understand completely. I have an 11 yr old bio son and he's getting the mouthy attitude somewhat but I don't hear much name calling. On the other hand I'm glad you spoke up because my 15 yr old step son thinks its ok to call me and my kids faggot because ' that's just what they say back home'. Um no... I don't think so not ... He is always rude but me and dh got into a huge heated discussion over this. He's a Disney dad btw so everything his does us always to be excused off as just try to understand he doesn't know the difference in rules when with us... Yeah right, after 4 yrs he knows better. So sorry for you. I understand how it's irritating.

oneoffour's picture

Stepbell, just tell your DH that if his son cannot tell the difference between good and bad behaviour then it may be time to check out a group home for him and a case worker for his future. He is SO doing his son a dis-service.

lac925's picture

Our BS6 is starting to get an "attitude" as well, and we think it's from being around SS11 so much when the skids are over. I'm afraid that maybe BS6 looks up to SS11 Sad SS11 is NOT someone who should be looked at as someone to be admired and emulated :S SS11 himself should have a "big brother", someone who's been at the same place as SS11 and who has turned his life around. DH simply telling him not to do the things he does won't help, because as you know, DH is nothing but a sperm donor! :O DH and I talked about the time when (not IF, WHEN) the skids will be taken from their mother, and we both agreed that if it comes to that, SS11 will be shipped off to the boys' home here in our city. SS11 needs to be whipped into shape by someone who isn't his dad - a 3rd party would have better results than we would.

oneoffour's picture

Oh wow! I have had a few of those moments myself.
My by-rote answer was "Life is not fair. Get over it. And if one more person behaves like an idiot they will be walking home"

Stepbell's picture

I wish I could. He has no respect for adults. Both parents have let him do and say whatever he wants so he's never been made to mind. He's been out on a pedestal like a little prince who now thinks he's better than everybody else and can do what he wants.