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Update...it's been a while

Kteach109's picture

Hello All, it's been a while since I have been on here and I really needed to vent today. Last time I posted I told you all that we got SD3 Mon-Fri and it was going okay. Well...FH got a promotion at work which os great BUT it also means longer hours as well as staying later than his schedule say ETC. This also mean more responsibility on me. He takes her to school beofre he goes to work and then I pick her up after work aroung=d 3:45ish and have her until he gts home which can be anywhere from 8:30- ???? Now, I take care of her, feed her, bathe her and get her ready for bed. All in all he sees her about an hour a day if even that. I guess I just feel like I am raising someone else's kid for them when I don't have any legal responsibility or rights to this child. I was off of work this whole past week and was so excited that he decided that she could stay with her mom the whole week and I could have abreak. Last night he asked me if I missed her and I told him that honestly it was nice to have a break for a week and of course he got all pissed off because I am suppossed to have this unbreakable bond with her by now and accept her as my own which is never going to happen. She is not my kid, she has a mom ( who is a white trash piece of s**t) and a dad. I think he should feel lucky that I even do what I do because how would he do it without me???? I feel like I do everything. I can't even make appointments for myself after work because he has to work late. I feel like I have given up my life for this kid who is not mine. On the other hand I kind of feel bad for feeling this way because the kid is innocent in this and can't ehlp the situation she is in. I just don't know what to do anymore.

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buttercup123's picture

He SHOULD be happy and realize how lucky he is to have you. I'd be pissed at him for getting pissed. You have every right to some time for yourself and if he asks the question he shouldn't get mad when he gets an honest answer. He needs to keep in mind that you have stepped up where BM left off. That's pretty stand up of you.

Stepping into the role of step parent is like running a marathon you never trained for. We step in and step up but don't have that bond. I'd be asking him what of BM's bond????

I think it's just a case of misunderstanding. You need to communicate your feelings and listen to his on the subject. Good luck.