Advice please-Holiday edition
My DH and would like some advice in regards to my SD's visitation for holidays.
For context, I mostly Nacho parent, I have 3 littles of my own with DH and I'm his support person when it comes to advice and such for SD10, but hardly choose to get involved. We have a good relationship overall, she trusts me a good amount and when she's with us I always make sure she's treated equally to my 3 toddlers. Her dad and her are pretty close but there is a bit of a language barrier as DH speaks only Spanish but sd understands it well, just doesn't speak it much. So sure, they may not be able to communicate very well but they do.
Lately we've been noticing that she's becoming very distant to her dad and siblings and has willingly chosen to miss out on activities with us. This year we were low on funds to celebrate thanksgiving on the exact day so we postponed her visit for the following Saturday to have our own little family "thanksgiving dinner." I let BM know this. Long story short, SD refused to come have dinner with us and chose to wait until our scheduled weekend, to visit. (EOW schedule) This obviously upset DH and I hate to see that because he is such a great father and has done so much for her and has been put through so much by bm just to have a relationship with her.
My question is, how do you put up with these kinds of situations? Where it's become very noticeable that Sk prefers to visit dad only when something "fun" is involved or out of convenience?
Now sd decided she won't spend Christmas with us but does want to join us on a trip to a Christmas theme fair.. and that we can have her for New years instead -.-
im trying very hard to not grow resentment towards sk but Im at a loss on how to help DH with this situation. Any advice for him?