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Confusing exchange with SD

Kay2's picture

I don't know if I am reading too much into this or what, but my mother brought by some valentines day things for SD6, a bear some chocolate, and a few outfits. My mom called about 10 minutes after I got SD home from school. She asked to speak with SD to see if she liked her things. She was on speakerphone, so I heard what was said, my mother asked her "SD do your new outfits?" out of nowhere SD says "I only visit my mom at christmas." uhhh, my mother sounded very confused and said "Sweetie I wasn't talking about your mom, I asked if you like your new things" SD said "I only visit my mom at Christmas", my mother started to freak out a bit, I could hear it in her voice, so I turned to SD and said "SD she didn't ask you about your mom, she asked you if you liked your outfits", SD then whispers into the phone, "I only visit my mom at christmas time" my mother said "What?" so SD yelled into the phone "I ONLY VISIT MY MOM AT CHRISTMAS TIME!" I had enough, I turned snatched the phone from her hit mute and said "SD noone asked you about your mom, stop talking about her and answer the question!" My mother felt terrible like she had done something wrong, which just made me extremely mad at the situation, then I got to thinking and the more I think about it the more confused I get.....where in the hell did that come from. :?

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Kay2's picture

I don't think so, she has about a dozen dress up outfits here (princess stuff). So she plays dress up here all the time, also earlier today, I was going to drive her to school, and my car wouldn't start, so I started to take SD to the bus stop, (her mother says she can't ride the bus). I take her when I can, but if my car wont start it is more important that she go to school, so anyway I told her we where going to go to the bus stop, she stopped dead in her tracks and said "my mom told me not to ride the bus". OMG really did she really tell her not to get on the bus. Took everything I had to not say to SD I don't give a crap what your mom says, she isn't here to take you. GRRRR I had hearing about BM more than once a day.

Kay2's picture

Yep, she is a smart little butt Blum 3 . I am going to have FDH talk to her about it when he gets here, I almost got something out of her, she said "my mom said........" I said what? and she clammed up on me... there is something else to this I just can't figure out what.

MamaBecky's picture

I am guessing you are Custodial and BM is not? Does she see the child at Christmas? If she does them maybe SD associates relieving gifts with christmas and BM and feels that if she is getting gifts from someone other then BM she is betraying her. Maybe she thinks if she is taking gifts from someone else she is missing out on time with her BM. It really just depends on how she relates the two things together. Your DH definitely needs to talk to SD and find out what her confusion is, and then calmly try to explain it to her. Your poor mom though...she must have been dumbstruck!

Last-Wife's picture

Yea, but at the age of 6, I think a child would have received many different kinds of presents at different times. So I don't think it's a "presents only at Christmas with mom" kinda thing....

Stumped on this one... Update us if you find out anything.

Kay2's picture

FDH couldn't make any sense of it, she said she kept repeating it because she thought that my mom didn't hear her, but that isn't the case. She has some confusion over something, I do believe that she was coached a bit when she was with her mom at christmas time, I have been hearing alot of "my mom said I can do this", and "my mom said I can't do this" and my favorite, "my mom said you shouldn't do that". Very frustrating.