I guess I shouldn't be surprised.
As many of you all already know, I have finally set my moving date for July 4th weekend (Yay!) DH continues to say he is going with me. Since I have been so ill with fibromyalgia, I have been unable to work very much at all. DH's job continues to be very unstable; therefore, we are in very poor shape financially. When we move back to my home area, we are going to be living with my mother for awhile.
SD13 backed out of going a few weeks ago. DH had a conversation with BM about it. BM expressed how absolutely ecstatic she was to be getting her little girl back hoooommmeee... until she found out I wanted exactly the same thing, for her to pleeease take her brat back and keep her away from me.
Right after deciding our official moving date, we informed BM. She demanded that SD be returned to her on July 5th. DH agreed.
Then last night, BM told SD who INFORMED us that she would be going with us until the summer was over.
Had a big text war with BM during which I told her that we were going to MY family's house and therefore she had no say in the matter. BM insists we go strictly by the court order. (That only works when she says it works...I guess she's forgotten last Monday when she decided not to pick SD up despite the court order, simply because she "wasn't in the mood")
I think what happened is that SD decided she wants to be involved in all the excitement of moving and wants to go, albeit temporarily, but is afraid to tell her dad she wants to go so she thinks she'll just get BM to manipulate the situation so she can get her way.
DH, of course, thinks this has nothing to do with SD and is just BM trying to cause trouble because that is her hobby.
Either one of us could be right.
But the fact remains... SD is not welcome at my family's house right now. They are just too angry with her for what they feel she has done to my health. (They are not happy with DH either, but are willing to accept him because they know I love him.)
So now on top of packing, taking care of moving business, and everything else, I have to figure out how to get the court order changed for SD to stay here before we leave in three weeks time.