First blog post - bad timing
Sorry, I know this is bad timing for someone new to introduce themselves after the Crew controversy over the past couple of days. However, since I got off on the wrong foot on this site by my first post ever expressing sympathy to her for the loss of her dog, I figured I should start my own blog to introduce myself.
I live with my wonderful FDH who has 3 kids: SD9, SS8, and SD7. They come over EOW. We have had a few rough spots during our last 3 years together but we are doing pretty well. His kids are very nice and sweet, and I'm fond of them all, especially SD7.
A few kinks we've experienced along the way mostly involve me trying to work out what my role should be involving his kids. I've decided the best way is for me to just be like an "aunt" or "big sister" to them, but not take any parental role with them. The problem with this is, at times, when his kids do things I don't like that aren't corrected by their dad, such as act bratty, talk back, or have a nasty attitude, it's difficult for me to just sit there while this behavior is allowed to continue. I don't want to correct them myself because I don't want to be their parent, so I just leave the situation and go in our room to get away for a while, and I sometimes end up being annoyed at FDH for being so laid back. But little by little, we are working it out, and I'm letting him know how I feel.
Luckily, my FDH is very supportive, wants my opinion, and cares about how I feel and how the kids treat me. So far, the kids and I have gotten along very well. They like me and accept me in their life, and I like them.
I've lurked on here for a long time and have gotten a lot of advice just from reading your experiences, so I'm not sure how much I have to contribute to this site, but I hope to post from time to time. I'm glad to be here.