Very much dislike my 6 year old step daughter!!
This is my first blog so will be long...sorry but really need some help and someone to talk to. Ok so I am a biological mother of 4 kids(3 girls and 1 boy) oldest is 10 and youngest 2. Two of them are from a previous marriage but they have been with me and my husband now for 7 years. So they have a great relationship. Ok so here is the problem...my husband just got sole custody of his 6 year old daughter in September. He had no relationship with her beforehand since he didn't know about her. So of course I didn't either until 2 years ago which he was on child support now to where she lives with us full time. I am the one that fought to get her here and we sacrificed a lot...we lost our last home and children had to move schools(which the one they are at now my daughter gets bulliedand hates it) we lost our cars etc putting out money every weekend for my SD. She is VERY manipulative,lies constantly,has tried to physically hurt her 5 and 2 year old sisters. She openly admits she hates them and wants them not to be here. (Those 2 are my husband and I's kids together). She has no care for anyone but herself. She stayed with her gma 3 hours away before being with us and she never had to do anything she didn't want...got her way constantly and had NO manners. Since she has been here I have started to grow a hate for her. I literally cant stand her. I have tried everything in my power to get her to do things such as school work but if she doesn't want to do something she won't. She has looked me in my eyes several times and said she isnt going to do it because she doesn't want to. I have tried every discipline possible and NOTHING works. She has no respect for others especially me. She will tell you that she likes who she is and She doesn't want to change..she's ok hurting people and being mean but its not ok for people to do it to her. She has no remorse for her actions. She cries just to make u feel sorry for her. The only reason she tells anyone sorry is if you tell her too and only reason she does is because u tell her to and she doesn't mean(and she will tell u that). I had to move my 5 year old daughter out of the room she shared with my oldest daughter aftwr my SD started being mean and saying mean things to her and when that happened she was laughing evil about it in front of my oldest. She admitted She was happy she wouldnt be in the room. She has also admitted she would hurt my 5 and 2 year old if she was allowed to be around them(I don't allow them to be around each other in fear of one of them getting hurt). My husband and I have started fighting badly because we don't agree on stuff or he doesn't do enough or he lets stuff go with her. I am not comfortable in my own home and am constantly upset or on edge when my SD is around. I don't know what to do or have anyone to talk to. Am I wrong for feeling this way about her? Please help!!