SS is 15. He will be 16 at the end of October. He has been working to save up for a car. He is supposed to come out here to our state for his summer visit in 3 weeks. BM tried to stop the visit over rec league baseball, but our CO clearly stated that father's summer visit is a priority over other activities. Well, BM wasn't budging, we were prepared to add a 5 th contempt charge to the 4 we already have waiting on a trial date. 

Many of you know my adult SS20 who lives with us full time is/has Autistic, Bi-Polar, GAD, ADHD. We tried to get disability for him when he turned 18 and were rejected even though his school, psychologist and job coach all told us they recommended it when they were questioned. We filed for an appeal, which was "lost" and DH and I just didn't follow back up like we should have because of everything going on with SS15. 

Due to what BM pulled with SS our lawyer is going to file another contempt charge. I was talking to my husband about some of my fears last night. The judge was very strong in speaking to BM and SS in court last month. He stated very clearly that if BM didn't follow the CO that she was going to spend 30 days in jail and that there may be a custody switch. He said that her behavior was inexcusable. He told SS he better get on the plane unless he wants his mom in jail (he said that because it is obvious how protective SS is of her).

I know many of you are saying to not do custody swaps right now- however that is not an option in the eyes of DH and I for SS or my bios. 

We are trying to schedule the summer visit starting June 10th - the day the stay at home order lifts for our state and more than 30 days after the order for SS's state. Plane tickets are insanely cheap right now. We want to go ahead and purchase them. 

After no response for 5 days BM finally replies with no because of Covid. DH responded with:

BM,