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justmakingthebest's picture

Hey everyone!

SS made it in. He, of course, acts like nothing has ever happened. All smiles and jokes. Fits right in like he never left and lives with us all the time. 

BM has yet to respond to DH calling her out on his "sprained ankle" and "could only travel by car" last minute nonsense. I still can't believe that the doctor said she literally backed him into a corner and demanded that the note read a certain way. 

DH orginally agreed to taking 2 less days than he was allowed over Christmas in an effort to actually get SS here. We used the dates that 'SS' requested so that he wouldn't miss basketball. Well... since BM sent the us the Dr. note stating that he is on limited activites for the next 2 weeks, DH is going to extend SS's trip. BM is going to be BIG MAD. 

Don't mind me, I will just be hiding in my closet with all the stashed booze until he leaves! 

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ICanMakeIt's picture

I love the extension of the trip.

Enjoy the time. I hope she gets her a$$ nailed to the wall. Merry Christmas and enjoy the secret stash too!! :-) 

 

tog redux's picture

Great idea on the extension of the trip. Does DH plan to tell SS about BM's shenanigans?  I do think it's interesting that she didn't/couldn't get SS to say that he didn't want to come this year. 

justmakingthebest's picture

Me too!!

That was the really interesting part and I didn't even pick up on that until you mentioned it. 

He didn't talk to DH but he didn't do the "I hate you, I'm not coming" thing....

Merry's picture

It's just not FAIR that you and DH are so much smarter than batsh!t crazy BM. Extending the trip was brilliant.

Hope DH is giddy, hope SS is pleasant to be around, and hope that you stay sane.

MissK03's picture

Oooooo the extension is really good. Now, does she constantly text/call while he is there? Maybe he is seeing it and will want to visit more...? Not that BM would allow it or anything.. maybe more forged health documents. 

justmakingthebest's picture

I didn't stay up late last night since I still have to work today and tomorrow. We made all the kids put up the phones for card games last night, he didn't even bat an eye to doing it. 

He has a new girlfriend and I know they were snap chatting back and forth but I don't know what, if anything was discussed with BM...

futurestepmomnowstepgf's picture

awaiting an update from you! I think that is fantastic that your DH is extending SS's visit instead of adhering to BM's bs dates when SS is not even cleared for activity. Stinks for you in a way, but a party in the closet with booze does sound fun! I just really hope since it is not family court dealing with her forgery that BM actually gets held accoutable for her actions!

lieutenant_dad's picture

There is this tiny sliver of hope in me that says SS doesn't know how BM is and doesn't realize the pain you've all been through. Or, that he recognizes but plays the part only because he has no other option and will apologize profusely when he turns 18. The fact that he has a GF and got drunk while visiting gives me hope that he might turn out normal because those are "normal" teen behaviors.

Good luck during this visit! I really am hoping that Karma has finally caught up to BM.

justmakingthebest's picture

I completely agree.

He has also told my brother that he wants to join the Air Force when he graduates- THAT would be amazing. The thing we have to get through to him, is that he is a DOD dependent. If his mom has the military paying for his diagnosis of Elhors-Danlos (even though it is all based on lies) they won't let him in. 

lieutenant_dad's picture

Probably a good conversation to have with him during this trip. OSS was about 16/17 when we started having the "no, for real, you need to start actively planning for the logistics of your future" talks. Really, your DH is going to need to take some time this trip and have some really not-fun convos with his son, especially if he finds out the county is going to prosecute BM. SS needs to hear from DH what ACTUALLY happened with that and not whatever witch hunt story BM weaves.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

SS made it in. He, of course, acts like nothing has ever happened. All smiles and jokes. Fits right in like he never left and lives with us all the time.

Every time I read this kind of thing about your SS, I am always reminded of Cheryl Mefferd and her skids. Hope it's not the same.

Your SS joining the military could be a huge game-changer for him. BioHo freaked the eff out when SS21 joined. After all, her favorite child was moving hundreds of miles away and wouldn't be at her beck and call every second of the day. SS21 has grown up SO much and now actually tells 'Ho t she is overinvolved and to butt out of his life. *lol*