Parenting in a new world
BS17 has a really wonderful group of friends. These are just genuinely great kids, they are the super smart, goal oriented, high achieving kids in high school.
This year a Trans kid has joined the group. He has had a hard time making male friends but BS and him have clicked. Last night BS invited him over. I had asked if this was planned to be a sleepover or just hanging until curfew. BS said just hanging he thinks, but nothing definite. I told BS that I wasn't sure how I felt about it. At the end of the day, this person still has a vagina and he has a penis. So I had to figure that out in my mind first, so talk to me if anything changes.
Well, I woke up this morning and the kid was asleep on one couch and BS on the other. Surprisingly, I felt at ease with it. I'm irritated we didn't talk about it but I am letting it go. I made sure to tell the friend he was welcome back any time and make them a yummy breakfast.
This is such uncharted territory for me. One of my best friends since I was 14 is gay. There was never any denying it but we weren't allowed sleepovers. So, I just wasn't sure how to handle this one. I am still a little in my head with it but I figured his parents, who are really involved, were ok with it, we are probably safe ...
I am curious on other people's thoughts. DH and I keep going... we think this is fine... but maybe not... but probably...
I just don't want him to not feel accepted.