My sister and I have had a strained relationship off and on our whole lives. Back in May her BF (they live together) had to go to NY City for a job- he is in the boiler industry. He found out he was exposed and had symptoms a couple of days after he returned. My kids had just spent the day with both of them and then spent the night at our parents house. My Dad is an ICU nurse. Anyway, my dad had gotten off of a long shift and stopped by my office to say hi just as my sister is texting telling me that her BF was exposed. She also tells me that her boss is making him attend the team meeting (about 75 people) before he can go get tested. Well, my dad was here with me so I was relaying the info because if BF had it, and gave it to my kids who gave it to my dad (unlikely but possible) my dad could kill a patient. He was in a Non- Covid unit. 

Anyway, Dad leaves, tells our Mom who calls and reports the meeting to the police (we were under a 10 person group order at the time). Sister finds out, FLIPS out on me- I had no idea what happened- I was at work, tells me to F off and goes crazy on me. Mom canceled the call. No one came out, nothing was reported, no harm done. Sister is STILL mad at me because even though I apologized for telling dad, I am "not owning my part" and my apologies are "insincere" - blah blah blah. I give up. I didn't do anything wrong and I still believe that. 

So- she has be rude and distant since that happened. I have tried to go on like nothing ever happened. Apparently that means I am 2 faced. 

Last night she shows up at my house unexpectedly. Bawling her eyes out. She went to go see our Mom because her double mastectomy is today and our dad made her leave. Her BF is still back and forth in NYC and isn't quarantining or getting tested and they live together. At this point covid could kill my mom. She has gone from the 1st lump to stage 3 in 6 weeks. She is rapidly progressing and can't risk getting it before her surgery. I get why my dad kicked her out. She should too. 

Anyway, she is all hysterical about how we are not ok. We need to be ok for mom- I agree. I say lets just move past this. She says NO, you need to apologize. I say again- I am so sorry that I told dad anything and that everything was blown out of proportion. She says "That's all???!?!?! Seriously!?!?!" I am like what do you want from me- that is all I did. 

Well apparently because SHE assumed that I had more to do with my mom's call- which I didn't even know my dad told my mom when all this went down because I was at WORK- I need to apologize for my part (which was non existent) and that I didn't handle myself like I should have- on and on and on. 

Then she tells me that she was always there for me- At this point I am pissed. She moved her BF's sister and 2 kids in her tiny ass house rent free for the last 4 months because she was in a bad marriage. I reminded her that when I was getting thrown around the house by my ex that she said that I "made my bed and need to lie in it". So I am sooooo glad she can be there for her but turned her back on me and my kids. 

She said that she doesn't have a choice just like I don't have a choice to "Have THAT (pointing to the kitchen where SS20 was standing) living here and never wanting him!" - I told her to get the F**K out of my house and don't ever come back. 

I am so hurt. My eyes are so swollen from crying. I don't know what to say to SS, I just told him that I love him and that I always want him here with us. All of this and my mom's surgery today. How freaking dare her! What is wrong with her??? 

If you read through all of this- you are awesome. I just needed to get it all out. DH was on duty last night so I was very alone in all my feelings and today is just already sucking a big fat one. 

Pray for my mom please. She has to have dye injected at 9 then over to the hospital for surgery at noon. They said 4-5 hours. It is going to be a long day. No one  but my dad can be at the hospital. They allow one preregistered guest for her stay.