Need some prayers y'all
Not for me this time, for my niece.
A few days before Easter my niece (23) found out that her long time boyfriend, that she has 2 babies with, was cheating on her.
She left and they discussed doing 50/50 no child support. After the 1st week she handed the kids over to him. He has since kept the kids, tried to file a restraining order on her stating she was a danger to them, and now after that was dropped is still refusing to give the kids back. He has moved and she has no idea where they are. These babies are 14 months and 2.5 yrs old.
My sister and I are meeting her tonight to strategize. He is hostile and nasty and horrible. I have never liked him but now I just want to murder him. She hasn't seen her babies in 2 months. This is insane. She is scared of him, scared that if she doesn't sign some paper work that his mother's lawyer drew up that she will never see them again.
We found out how abusive their relationship was last week, she finally told my sister and I. I am heartbroken that I didn't see the signs, especially since I lived that before. She is young and stupid and needs guidance. I have somethings written up to go over with her but if there is any advice here that you can give before our meeting I will be sure to add to it!
My big things are her life plans, long and short term goals and how to get there. She needs to establish a home and more secure job. She needs to learn a proper budget. I will walk through court filings for emergency custody and a writ of assistance. If there is anything else you can think of please help! My head is spinning and I have to keep my sister calm for this too, she is about to lose her mind as well. Those are her grand babies. She used to babysit once a week and they have been stolen from her too.
I am the only professional on that side of my family (My older sister and I share a dad and didn't grow up together, I had an easy life, she did not.). I want to help my niece anyway I can, that will make HER help HERSELF! My sister and I both are strong believers that you have to fix your life, you can't have other people do it for you.