DH is Navy and we will either retire if he doesn't make rank (24 yrs in) or be moving in 3 years. Either way, I have no desire to stay in our current location.
My mom has been up my a$$ about buying a house. We had not bought a home yet because up until March this year we thought we would have orders out of here this year. Now that we are staying another 3, we could buy but really don't want to. We like our rental, it is in the perfect location- some of the best schools in the country, I have a .8 mile commute. I can see my kids middle school from my office window. It is the perfect size and I love our floor plan!
This weekend she was really pissing me off at dinner. She kept saying what a great investment it is- while I agree, it really isn't if we have to sell in 3 years and if we don't have intentions on coming back here, what is the point? Our rent is $400-600 less than most 4 bedroom houses in our area- rent or mortgage. The guy that owns it hasn't changed the rent in like 15 years. So it is a steal! We got super lucky when we got it.
Well, when I explained to my mother for about the 30th time that we won't be coming back here after we move and if DH retires we will be moving to one of the like 5 locations in America where he can do his job in the military as a civilian, she got all stupid! She starting fussing that my kids will just stay here and live with her. I was like like F**K NO, MA! They will absolutely not be staying here. They will be moving with DH and I so just shut your face.
Things wound up getting really heated. I am so afraid that this is going to be a non stop topic now. My mom can play the guilt card like no one I have ever met. I moved away when I was 19 for 10 years while married to my ex. We have been back 8 years now and my kids are super close to my parents, but that doesn't change the fact that DH and I will be preparing for all but SS19 to be in High School as we move from here and then hopefully launching! We need to prepare for our lives post raising kids. My parents aren't going to be alone, my sister and brother are both local. My sister is planning are starting a family soon, so she will still be able to be grandma to kids locally.
I don't know, I am just rambling and frustrated with my mother. I wish she was more like my MIL sometimes. MIL is the most supportive person, she never interferes with parenting, she just gets it I guess.