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I wish we could just get a new lawyer at this point!

justmakingthebest's picture

It has been a slight variation the same email from me for weeks!

"Mr Lawyer",

 

We have so much going on it’s not even funny. "DH" is also up for rank, which means a pay raise that we really don’t want to be factored in the next couple of months.

 

  1. Did you get the court date?

 

  1. Does "DH" need to sign for adding contempt for spring break? Can you just put in the paperwork that she has to bring taxes from 2014-2021 to the hearing so that it can be decided in court- NOT LATER.

 

  1. Is it another contempt since she never turned in her financials when you subpeoned them 2 years ago? I would think with 2 contempt’s and her still not showing up with taxes we should be awarded imputed income.

 

  1. What should we do about the additional child support for this month?

 

  1. Did you get a chance to send that subpoena to "BM’s" employer’s main location? That is the only way we are going to get anything from them. Can you throw in a letter to the doctor that "her branch" location has been non-responsive?

 

  1. What about our request to terminate all support after "SS's" 18th Birthday? Is that something we can do? If he won’t even tell "DH" he is alive, and neither will "BM" will the court see that "SS" is only a paycheck to "BM" and end it?? Can we add that to the petition?

 

I know you are super busy and I understand, but we have to have this handled. It can’t be dragged out any longer. We have other kids, a potential move this summer, all the crap with our car and house- we have to have this resolved.

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ESMOD's picture

Is your lawyer part of a larger practice?  If so.. I would contact one of the partners... I would also send an email stating you have asked for these questions to be answered for weeks and have gotten zero response.. and you will be filing a complaint with the state board if you do not get a response within 5 business days.

justmakingthebest's picture

It's a small practice, and he is a partner. I know it is because we are out of state and out of mind. 

Everything is so backwards there! In the county where the case is heard, there is only one family law practice and BM has them. This lawyer has to drive over an hour to get to court, he is the next closest county with a family law practice. No one from DH's hometown will even take it becuse it is 2 hours away. 

advice.only2's picture

I'm so sorry this had got to be beyond frustrating.  I don't understand how any of the lawyers or judges can just let this drag out, unless they are completely backed up because of past cases, but I find that hard to believe.  Sh@t anytime Meth Mouth took DH to court he had to appear, he even tried to get continunces and the judge would admonish him, like umm hello he can't be in court every other week just because she's a stupid cow who can't stay ouf ot jail! 

SeeYouNever's picture

They might not be able to complete all that stuff in a timely manner but they should at least respond to you when you ask these questions.

Start making phone calls to follow up after these emails.

 

 

Ispofacto's picture

I know you want closure, but the best case scenario at this point is BM gets nothing from you, but also never gets cited for contempt.  I wonder if your BM is lucid enough to realize she's probably not going to get the windfall she was hoping for.  If that is the case, this could be postponed indefinitely, which would save you a lot of attorney fees.

Whatever raise DH gets would only benefit her for one year, which shouldn't amount to much.

 

justmakingthebest's picture

What I honsetly think will happen is BM gets nothing in back CS and the judge calls the contempts "a wash" and a new CS amount will be ordered until he graduates. 

Which is fine. I am cool with that and it is the easy button for the judge which is all he wants- to avoid actually doing his job.

Thumper's picture

Nothing like dragging and dragging out a case for years on end. Once the churning starts it is very hard to make it stop.

I totally feel for you and dh.  Same boat here.

Unless CS is very different where bm lives, your dh will have to request modification to end support.  So back to a hearing you go.

*check BM's state about extorting more cs out of DH,,,I MEAN extending child support beyond age 18*

 

 

 

 

 

 

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Ugh.  I'm so sorry this nonsense is still going on!  It's never-ending!  I still don't understand how your BM is getting away with half the things she does... I know you just want some form of resolution at this point Sad