False abuse claims- spin off from Lndsy747's forum on PAS
DH and I both made final payments on our Cruise. Today was the deadline day. We waited to see if we got anything from the GAL or from BM's attorney or anything stating we couldn't take him. The GAL told us that as of right now the current order stands- He has not received payment from BM nor spoken to either her or SS at this time. The GAL also made both attorney's (ours who already knows everything and BM's) about this trip and the deadlines and that after the deadline no changes could be made. *** This is not 100% true. We can still do a name change up until the day before. However, not taking someone else would, we feel, give us more leverage in court for her to have to reimburse us for violating the order ***
So anyway, since BM's PAS game is so strong right now we aren't sure SS is going to be coming with us. DH said today I am just waiting because I just know that right after we buy the plane ticket there is going to be an abuse claim against me/us. I completely agree. There will be. We have NEVER abused or endangered SS in any way shape or form. However, we are sure that is going to be her tactic.
How do we preemptively handle this? DH, being in the Navy, has something called family advocacy. They are like military social services. Since SS lives in Podunk nowhere they will hire local social services to investigate his home and will investigate us as well. If we are already cleared by social services, that shouldn't be an argument right? Plus, for us, it is the military doing it, not local agencies. We would also try and make the case more about Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy than anything else when we report it but let them know that we feel this is the path going to be taken and want to have it cleared before it starts. We aren't 100% sure that we want to go this route, however not doing anything makes it feel like we are just waiting for a snake to attack.
Anyone have any other ideas how to nip it before it starts? I have my own bios to think about too and while I don't think my ex would use this against me, we have a good relationship, you just never know. He is moving across the country and he does pay CS. He might see this as the chance to take the kids with him and not have to pay "me" anymore for them. Or if the abuse claim comes in and before they investigate my children are removed! I mean, crazier things have happened. BM and SS don't care about my kids. SS I believe used to and could again, but it will take time and work on all of our parts- and counseling!! Good lord Counseling.