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just.his.wife's picture

Bad news: ysd's nose is broken. Good news is there is 'minimal displacement' so it should heal all on it's own without deviating her septum or any easily discernible disfigurement.

DH got the call from the juvenile facility- they 'determined' her punishment should be 21 days of home confinement. DH laughed and told them good luck as

1) he already had her on home confinement (grounded) and her sneaking out started the mess
and
2) this is no longer her home. She assaulted one of her siblings and she is not welcome back.

They did inquire about her mother: to be told she was in county lockup for at least another month and that neither set of grandparents is able to take her either. They apparently called DCFS who in turn called DH and threatened him with abandonment charges.

He informed the social workers the child was a month from 18, if they wanted him to pay CS (1/2 of it, BM responsible for the other half) for the next 30 days he was fine with that. But he was not bringing an abusive near adult into his home to terrorize his other children, and pointed out he thought it was their JOB to keep abusers away from victims, yet here they are threatening him if he doesn't allow the abuser to live in his home then he will be in trouble.

It appears the end result is SD17 doing 21 days in juvie and the facility is going to be working on "placement" for the 15 days she has left until her 18th birthday once she is released.

Hey at least if she is held behind bars she might be able to fulfill the sentence. Lord knows she would be sneaking away if the bars weren't holding her in.

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overworkedmom's picture

Good for you DH for not backing down and keeping the others kids safe!

just.his.wife's picture

Other kids are stunned. Guess they were under the impression that no matter what they did they could get away with it. They are seeing a whole new side of their dad where he is not willing to tolerate crappy behavior. And it is having positive results.

Yesterday all kids did their chores without being asked or reminded. Even ysd, her chore was cleaning the kitchen after dinner, DH was going to do it so she could ice her face (nose is swollen and the bottom of both eyelids are bruised) she went into the kitchen and had it most of the way done before he could even tell her to ice her face he would handle it.

DH contemplated having the other three in trouble for not narking out their older sister, then considering she went violent on her younger sister as soon as she was found out- figured (did not ask) that she had likely threatened all of them. Told them that from here on, if they closed ranks and covered for anothers wrong doing ALL would share equally the punishment. Each of the younger three seem to 'get it' as of right now. Then again they are also faced with they have no choice. Can not go running to BM to get away from it and have seen the results of SD17 deciding the rules did not apply to her.

DH and I both have to work today. The younger three were advised to keep the house clean, have their chores done when we get home, adhere to what they are still grounded from (basically going out, phone, computer, tv and anything that resembles a video game). If they make it through this week they are allowed to get TV back which will entertain them for a bit next week.

DH had stripped everything, so far they have earned back their beds, bedroom furniture, books and clothing (they HATED the school uniforms). From here on out they earn back the fun stuff, one mess up and they are back to ground zero.

BettyWinchester's picture

I would be careful once she gets out. She could be crazy psycho for revenge or something.

Delilah's picture

Yeah I was thinking this ^^^^^ they can form a DH and I.am.just.the.wife bashing group where they are the victims. Fooking idiots.

Sorry to hear that sd's nose is broken, good news that it will not leave perm damage though.

I think you and DH could do with a looooog holiday far away from all of this imo!

oneoffour's picture

Love it... "WE have decided YOU have to keep her at home." Like THAT will work..

Isn't it funny how the law will not listen to your shiney "S'not fair!" routine when you actually physically assault someone?

I wonder if she has had a CTJ moment yet?

just.his.wife's picture

I am wondering how she reacted when told her father would not allow her to come home.

just.his.wife's picture

I haven't talked to her, nor do I have the desire to. She does not have phone priv's at DJJ so likely no. At least DH did not say he spoke with her, just the reps from DJJ, which has me curious over what her reaction was when she found out darling daddy was not on board with letting her come home.

whatwasithinkin's picture

I think your Dh should start doing seminars...as a matter of fact...I think I love him.

ctnmom's picture

JHW, I had a thought- if you & DH get a RO on her, will that help at all? Can't she do her confinement in juvie if you can prove that she's a danger to the other occupants in the home? I'd get the RO. Anndd- *clap*clap*clap* for your DH! Smile

Purplemom's picture

Second this- I would also love to hear what a judge would have to say about DJJ wanting to send her home!