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justanothergurlNJ's picture

I am convinced BM has BPD. She exhibits almost all the symptoms and the ones she doesn't she has at some point in her life. She will never admit it or go for an official diagnosis, What I guess I am looking for is those of you with BM's who have this diagnosed or undiagnosed, how do you cope, or deal or keep as much crazy out of your lives as possible.

For years both SO and I really thought is was just spite, or vengeance or her inability to move on, but after seeing it talked about here and doing some research I am convinced. No one is that crazy without some kind of mental illness.

any help or advise will be much appreciated.

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misSTEP's picture

We cut BM out of our lives as much as possible. DH got a No Contact Order added to the CO. She was not allowed to call or text unless it was to do with a change in visitation. We did exchanges at a neutral third-party exchange place.

We did a lot of documentation as she had a habit of taking DH to court a lot. Probably because that was the only way she got to see him. LOL

justanothergurlNJ's picture

Ours LOVES the stop harassing me. Here's the thing. SO only texts or responds to messages about the ss's school, sport schedule or change in pick up, yet she will send 1000000000000 messages insulting, threatening and harassing SO and he just repeats the question at hand and then she will tell him STOP harassing me and then send 100000000000 more messages after that. She has gone as far as telling ss 10 tell your father I blocked him so he can't text me then unblock him and send him 100000000000 more shitty messages. WHO DOES THAT!

justanothergurlNJ's picture

It is something SO just started doing, ignoring her. It's been a long hard road but he has finally taken off her rose colored glasses when it comes to her.

momandmore's picture

Maybe yours will be different but it took BM2 about a year of her nonsense being ignored before she stopped. She still tries to start stuff every once in a while now but it's always ignored or shut down.

momandmore's picture

BM2 does that too. DH stopped responding to her and the next day she left text messages and I think 6 voicemails asking DH to stop calling and texting her or she would get him for harassment. No one was contacting her or responding. DH was at work, I had the phone and I was just documenting. I remember her last voicemail clearly, she acted so drained and was pleading that we stop contacting her. Lmao.

momandmore's picture

She has a list of diagnosed issues, BPD is one of them. I don't think she takes her meds properly.
I know she's narcissistic but I'm also wondering if she has "maternal narcissism"

momandmore's picture

Oh not this one. She's very proud of her check from the government every month since high school. She has to be reevaluated every couple of years which brings more issues and more meds.

justanothergurlNJ's picture

maternal narcissism"
OHHHH something else to research, hmm wonder how many symptoms BM will have

momandmore's picture

Yup same here. I read one that says they will steal from their kids, belittle them, be extremely jealous of them and some others I can't remember. Those stuck out to me because it sounds like BM.