My First Blog
I've recently found this site and am so grateful that I've found it. I find comfort in knowing that I'm not the only person going thru the awfullness of being a SM.
My story is much the same as many here, maybe a few details different...and the names have been changed to protect the not-so-innocent.
I spent 27 yrs married to my xH, and raised his daughter. SD31 and I have known each other almost all her life, she calls me "mom" and we have a great relationship. Her teen years were tough, but even though she was rebellious she & I never stopped loving each other. XH & I divorced and I've remarried DH, who has a bat-shit crazy ex (nicknamed Medusa), and 24-yo and 14-yo daughters, who are replicas of their BM.
The reason I mention all this is that I mistakenly thought that being a SM to SD31 would have prepared me for these 2 SDs. No....not even remotely. They follow the typical mold of other skids on this site. They love, protect, enable and are loyal to BM, and they treat DH the same way they watched their BM treat their dad....like shit on their shoes. Treat him any way you want, and he'll just keep taking it. Manipulate him into what you want from him, and he'll comply. Talk to him any way you want, b/c he'll never call you on it. Argue with him IF he speaks up, b/c he'll back right down. So, to be fair, they've been taught by the master manipulator....and they've learned the lessons well. They are good little soldiers in their mother's Army of Hate.
So, along comes Just Tired and DH starts growing balls. He began to see what life COULD be like and has begun standing up to all 3 of them and drawing boundaries. Of course, I am to blame for his non-compliant ways. I am the evil-doer. I am the one standing between the 3 of them and nirvana.
But wait. There's more. DH's 84-yo widowed mother lives with us, in an in-law apartment in the basement of our home. Now that I've spent time around this woman, I see that he married his mother when he married Medusa (BM). She has three gears: negative, passive-aggressive, and it's-all-about-me. I've never met a bigger narcissist. And as much as she hates DH's ex, my MIL is four-square in her granddaughters' corner. Poor widdle giwls....daddy is so mean to them....he doesn't do what they want anymore....poor widdle things.
I've truly reached the end of my rope with all FOUR of these bitches. I love DH with all my heart, and he & I are SO good together. Unfortunately, these females don't want to see him happy. They need him to be under their control. In a nutshell, that's where we're at. He continues to set boundaries and they piss all over them. But I will save that for another blog entry.
Just know that I feel at home here, and thank you all for any insight, humor, or anything you provide.