Need your wise advice
You've all heard me rant about my SD61. Emotional, high-maintenance, lying, manipulative. I am trying to stay gray-rocked and detached.
She has 2 daughters, C & M. Her relationship with M has been tenuous, I dont want to know the details altho she drained M"s college fund forcing M to take out student loans for her teaching education, for a starter. I try to have my own individual relationships with C & M without criticizing SD.
M delivered her 2nd child, a boy, 1 month prematurely this month. Last week, they called 911 when he was limp and turning blue. He's been in a local hospital for a week now. We visited last week and the latest news is he's off oxygen and doing better. The Drs say it was just a cold but he's a preemie. Also, he sleeps very soundly and sometimes "forgets" to breathe. What I'm hearing is this will all clear up as he reaches his normal birth time in 10 days.
When we visited M & baby last week, M didn't mention her mom and we didn't ask. Apparently, SD didn't know about all this til DH told her yesterday. Today, she called in tears wanting to know whats wrong, will the baby die, what will happen. I gave her what info I had, emphasizing the positive spin and saying since I hadn't heard more " no news is good news". She asked that I update her if I heard more.
I texted M, how's it going (he's doing better) and asked if she'd mind if I updated SD. She said ok but she doesnt want her showing up anywhere, they had some kind of upset around the baby's birth. I texted SD with the facts phrasing it as "M doesnt want any visitors right now". Alarm bells were going off in my head since I don't want to get in the middle.
Then C called me. SD had called her in tears about the baby's possible death and all the drama, what was the story? I told her what I knew and she said she was glad she called, can't believe SD, why does she say this harmful stuff. I didn't comment. SD either didn't read my soothing text or chose to ignore it.
So my question is, what do I do now? I'd like to just dig a hole and escape. I have a bad feeling that I'll get blamed somehow as usual.