Help me stay strong, guys
I posted last week about SD60 wrecking her $14k car after she'd let her insurance expire. You knew and I knew this would usher in plenty of drama and now here we are.
DH84 has some $ and plans to buy her a small used car. Ok, I agree so far. Today, he was discussing it and asked me to look online about buying a used car. We are older and have never done this but our kids have and I know people do it all the time.
So, I sat here and started looking around. My inner voice was saying " Alert! Alert!" but I didn't listen. DH came in and I started to tell him what I'd found, like I'd prefer to buy from a dealer rather than an individual. I suggested he talk to our neighbor who is in that business. I also asked whether it would be in her name or ours, recommended we keep the title in our safe deposit box, reminded him he'd have to pay sales tax and registration and said she'd have to prove she had insurance at the time of registration.
This started a long saga about how she's doing so much better, how clean she keeps her place, what a devoted grandmother she is, etc etc. I tried to express my concerns about her inability to manage her business transactions, her poor money management and her reduced mental facilities due to her drug use.
The conversation grew more heated with his vision of the future where one of us is incapacitated and how she'd be the one to come clean and take care of us. His example was his knee replacement when she showed up. I said that's because she was living with us and I was exhausted after staying there 2 nights and she offered to stay one night. She did stay but when I got there was asleep and hadn't gone with DH to therapy. When we got home, she stayed with him one afternoon and stole his pain pills.
Well, I suddenly thought, "Disengage!", "Disengage!". I'm not going to say another word or participate in any way. Help me stay strong, guys.