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Another Mother's Day . . .

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I have to post in the comments section . .so annoying!

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Jmom's picture

This post http://www.steptalk.org/node/185758 from manymoments reminded me why I hate Mother's Day. Oh I used to love it when it was just my BS14 and I now not so much. Here's why: I have had to deal with DH and SD14 on Mother's day for the past 4 years. In the past 4 years BM has not celebrated MDay with her daughter. For the past 4 years I have. Evey year SD is angry and it royally screws the day. But here's the kicker . . .

It is DH's new thing (past 4 years remember) to take SD to pick up my Mother's Day gift without my son. That's right people he takes the kid who could care less about me to get me flowers/card/gift and totally ignores and doesn't invite my Bio (who has no relationship with his BD). After the first 2 years of watching my son struggle with this and me trying to understand, my son started his own tradition of making me breakfast in bed while DH and SD are running around getting their surprise. By the time they make it back I'm grinning from ear to ear with breakfast and the best date ever This year I want to tell DH so bad to stop doing this . . .any suggestions?
Oh, they get BM nothing.

rainbow bright83's picture

I wish I could give you advice but whenever I would say anything to my DH that would negatively impact his view of his daughters a fight would soon take place. I wish you luck though!

Steppy MN2's picture

I'm sorry but this is just messed up!
But what a sweet young man you have.................................just doing something so special for his Mom. What could be any more wonderful on Mother's Day!

Jmom's picture

He is truly a good kid! I would not trade him for anything. I tell him all the time that he was made just for me Smile

Jmom's picture

LJCapp this is my plan this year. Maybe just MAYBE BM will keep her this year. She has missed the past 3 weekend visits so I'm pretty sure BM will be sending her for Mother's Day though. I'm tired of it and I will tell DH that although I appreciate the gester it's really not necessary. I just want to spend the day with my son!

Jmom's picture

Don't get it twisted. . .this is the ONLY thing that DH does where he puts me first. . .I always have to take a back seat to SD and BM. Also he's only doing this out of obligation! The first year we were married he said I wasn't his momma and I didn't have a kid with him so he didn't have to get me anything. Joking or not I gave him that REALLY look . . .so he does something every year.

whatwasithinkin's picture

Speak up. life is to short to have your DH hurt your BS's feelings once a yeah and for what purpose?

Jmom's picture

I hear ya! The purpose is for SD to participate in Mother's Day . . .I'm just not her momma. I'd rather they go get BM something. Maybe it will mean something to SD then.