I can't deal with SD12 being so damn rude
I live in a smaller town…not teeny tiny, but small enough where I run into people I know often – too often if you ask me… I was shopping last weekend and while in this particular store I ran into both of my DH’s BMs and the Skids (he has two kids with two moms) – the BMs were not shopping together. In both instances, the kids and BMs ignored me. Super. I don’t know why it bothered me, but I was particularly bothered that the SD12 looked at me and looked away. We have had a good relationship, but lately she is bratty and lippy and just rude. This ticked me off. I was going to tell my DH, but I thought, what the hell for? I will deal with this myself later. This child is driving me nuts. I was going to suck it up and say hi to both the BM and SD12, but after that clear sign of ignoring me, I didn’t. I don’t know what the deal is with her. I know it’s “her age” but I can’t remember being so rude to people. It’s not okay. I have talked to my DH about it and he is noticing it too and I am proud of my DH – here is an example:
We try to plan fun things once in a while for all of us to do and recently we were going to take a day trip somewhere really fun. The night before was New Years Eve and we took my skids to this New Year’s event – it was a lot of fun. And as usual, the SD12 acted bored, never thanked us, and was just rude. My DH noticed. Fast forward to the next morning, SD12 asked when we were leaving for the trip and my DH said: “We are not going. I have noticed you seem to just think you are entitled to fun activities without saying thank you, helping around the house, being in a good mood and I don’t think that I want to do nice things for you when you don’t appreciate them and when you don’t act like you want to be there.” In addition, she will not shower regularly or brush her freaking teeth without being told. He then asked her to shower and she threw a fit – he then said, “It also says a lot when you don’t take personal pride in how you look or smell. Being dirty does not show personal pride and that’s not okay.”
He is a good dad. He backs me up on dealing with the kids, but I don’t know what to say to her. I want nothing to do with her and it is sad. I don’t want this to get out of control, but when she ignores me – now at home and in public, I am not sure what I should say…maybe I should just ignore her too? That seems bad…ugh, I hate being a stepmom, I really do.