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Another Theory... this one is about women turning 29

jenjen's picture

Another theory by Dennis Prager:

Twenty-nine is a key age for women. Something happens around this age that makes a woman begin to question her life, the basic stuff – who am I, what are am doing with my life, and do I want a career or a home or both.

This one I completely agree with 100%. I have seen it over and over again in my life.

Even for me: When I turned 29 I finally decided that I wanted to find a relationship again, that I deserved one. Prior to that I was focused on being a mom. All of a sudden at age 29 I looked at myself and said "what are you doing?"

For BM: This is the age she was when she decided that she no longer wanted to be a wife. The age she decided to cheat and leave.

My sister: She decided her career was important, whereas prior to this age is was insignificant.

My GF: She decided that she wanted to have another baby. Her DD was 12 years old at the time.

I think there is something magical about turning 29? What's your experiences been?

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kphotog's picture

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Kb3Hooah's picture

I guess we'll soon see - I'll be turning 29 in April Smile

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soverysad's picture

HHHmmmm, I've "turned 29" 8 times. The first time, was the first time I moved into an apartment alone (I was all ready out of my parents' home, but had roommates, etc) away from my family and made a little bit of a career change. I guess you could say I grew up!

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jenjen's picture

That's funny you say turned 29 - 8 times. I celebrated with DH on the first anniversary of my 29th birthday, and the 2nd, and the 3rd is coming up next weekend. They are anniversaries to me....no longer aging, just celebrating the anniversaries! Lol!

Living-in-regret's picture

I turned 29 recently and I have to say that I agree. I feel like I've 'woken up' and there is so much to think about and so much is being put into perspective. The kind of mom I want to be, the kind of ex I want to be, the kind of partner I want to be, co-worker, employee, daughter, sister, where I stand in this life. Most days feel like my head is going to explode! BUT, I'm still not looking forward to 30!

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

29 was a big year for me.... I realized what I REALLY wanted out of my life with a husband and partner. I got divorced from 2nd husband and married DH. I left my hometown where I had always lived and moved to DH's town. There were many many other things that year, but those were the biggest.

Then I turned 30 and on my 30th birthday I spent the day in bed crying because I was officially OLD. LOL So I'm wondering what's going to happen next year when I turn 40!!! Yikes! haha

Now that I'm thinking about it, 2 of my best girlfriends got remarried that year too. We're all having our 10 year anniversaries this year. Smile

onehappygirl's picture

It was 35 for me. My ex-MIL died when I was 35. She had a miserable life with her husband. After 49 years of marriage, she finally gathered the courage and left her abusive husband. Six months later, she was diagnosed with cancer. She died five years later. I held her as she died, and that's when I realized I didn't want to waste my life anymore. My marriage was going down the same road as hers, and I saw myself at her age still in that same relationship. I got out and I've never been happier.
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TheWife's picture

I will call you back in about 4 years...

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belleboudeuse's picture

Ha! 29 is such a distant memory for me, I can't even tell you if it was an important year.

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

Stick's picture

30 was a great year for me... I started over at a new job in a new town, 5 hours away from home.

35 was another fantastic year.....I started a whole new career!

40 was ok... I was very happy in my career, but was starting to feel like I was actually aging. Up until that point, no one could believe I was 30 or 35... 40 started creeping up on me.

45... YUCK. I do not, did not like 45. Age and gravity have taken effect. I have to really watch what I eat, because I gain weight so easily. My boobs ballooned from a nice 32 DD to a 34 DDD. Yuck.

My face is sagging. My boobs are sagging. My spirits sag a lot easier too.

Eventually someday, I would like to get a face lift and boob reduction. I have definitely definitely finally hit my mid-life crisis!!

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

belleboudeuse's picture

Stick -- I soooo know what you mean. I'm 43. The last year has NOT been kind. Ugh.

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

Ahhhh....... my breast reduction is the single greatest thing I've ever done for myself!!!! Smile

Kb3Hooah's picture

WSM, you got any boobies left over I can have?

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Wicked.Step.Monster's picture

Not after my girlfriends here all laid claim to them! hahaha! I went from a D to an A. Now that I've gained some weight... ugh... they're a B and I can handle that!

minerva385's picture

I turn 25 in 29 days. To me that is when I am "officially old". I joke about it, but seriously I'm kind of freaking out. I don't know why 25 is such a "magical" number for me lol.

Mommyto1Stepto2's picture

I got married to DH soon after I turned 29. The year before I divorced my 2nd husband and started a new job.

mariposa2780's picture

Just turned 29 in December...it hasn't really changed anything for me..lol. Just got me one year closer to 30!

Candyfrogs's picture

This is soo funny to read! About an hour ago (I'm 29 and will be 30 in a few weeks,) I was just thinking about this. I feel like, OK, I've spent the last decade having babies (I first got pregnant at 20 and here I am at 29 having my fourth and probably last child.) It's significant to me and being 29 means the end of my fertility. I thought about how my 30's will be spent raising these babies and getting their little lives up and off to a good start. I see my forties as an enrichment time for me, and doing things like buying those things you just don't when you have young kids and trading in that family car for something more sexy. LOL!
I can work with this but I'm sure a skid or DH disaster will significantly alter one if not all of these dreams! In reality SS or SD will probably end up living with us when they're in college or God forbid something happen to BM and we end up with them all the time again. OK, that snapped me back to reality!

Amazed's picture

I think my 29 crisis is starting early since I'm 27 and already doing the whole life eval thing...it's not pretty but hopefully once I'm done I'll have some good perspective.

I did have a kid when I was 19...and I can tell ya I won't be having another one at 29.

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

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