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What it takes to enjoy being around SD

Jcksjj's picture

A few weeks ago was my grandpa's 75th birthday. Usually I try to avoid bringing SD to family events so that they can be more enjoyable, but there was no avoiding it this time.

I have one cousin that I'm fairly close to that was there and the entire time she was talking to the kids, SD in particular. I mean the rest of my family will talk to SD and be polite and say hi etc but most adults dont spend the entire gathering talking just to one of the kids like she did. And then when I went over to talk to her she was way excited about SD and kept going on and on about how wonderful SD was and how it she had a birthday party she was going to invite SD and ODS and she wanted to babysit them so badly etc. I found this kind of odd and annoying but didnt put a ton of thought into it. 

My mom messaged me the other night asking if that cousin had called me because apparently shes severely mentally I'll and displaying signs of having the types of psychotic breaks that my aunt (her mom) had and she ran away when she was supposed to go check herself in to treatment. Some of the psychosis involved obsessing over her niece and nephew and trying to keep everyone else away from them claiming basically everyone that came into contact with them was abusing them, etc. 

So while I'm concerned about my cousin, I couldn't help but think "so that's what it takes to enjoy being around SD. " 

I guess I'm probably screwed then.

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ctnmom's picture

This is a good one! Sad, but funny!

NoThanks's picture

Well, sadly, your SD probably has her own mental health issues in the form of a personality disorder. So it was 2 peas in a pod. I’m sure she LOVED all the attention on her too. 

Jcksjj's picture

Yeah when i first saw them talking i figured SD had latched on to her for attention, but i guess this time it went both ways.

Jcksjj's picture

No, no she doesnt. BM puts encourages her to gather attention enough as is. Little curious actually how that is going since shes getting older and older kids dont garner as much attention from people as little kids.

Simpleton21's picture

Oh she will find ways...she is like my SD remember so it will be things like claiming she is bi/gay/pansexual...dying her hair blue...faking injuries...using her younger siblings as puppets "look what I taught YS" etc etc.  It won't stop when she gets older.  They don't mature like most children.  

LOL, after SD's last weekend visit with us and coming out to insist daddeeee tucked her in multiple times (she is 12) my ODS (also 12) was like, "really mom, SD still needs tucked in at 12!!!!" At his bedtime I just tell him goodnight and I love him and he goes off to bed.

NoThanks's picture

EXACTLY! They get creative in finding ways to get attention. My exSD also faked being bisexual. It totally blew up in her face too lol. She fakes headaches and breathing problems. Antagonizes others so she can cry victim when they finally lash out at her. Talks and laughs exceptionally loud so we all can’t forget that she’s around. Still makes “art” for all the adults around her so we can all tell her how great it is. It’s not. When she’s really desperate, she hysterically cries over regular, daily occurences (ex. dropped something, can’t find something, missed a phone call, somebody looked at her wrong.) She’s 12 going on 3 and her Dad thinks she’s just a sweetheart. 

Simpleton21's picture

Holy crap NoThanks...do we have the same awful SD?!?!? My SD does all that stuff.  OMG, the awful art shit.  She has a hot glue gun so she is always making the most hideous things with it and showing it off like she is amazing.  One time she hot glued twigs to the top of an empty pringle can and thought it was amazing.  Of course DH acted like it was great.  I couldn't wait to throw it away.  WTH are we going to do with that!  Last time we had her she cut apart an old shirt to "repurpose it" and hot glued it together to make a halter top.  She does not have the type of body to be wearing halter tops and I'm sure if she put it on the hot glue would just come undone!  Ugh!  Oh and she is always making horrible crafts for my YDS.  So many cardboard cut outs with half assed scribbles on them.  Mine also has "sports induced asthma"...she only has attacks when BM is present.  Never once has she had one in our presence and she runs around our home and plays super loudly just fine!  Def does the antagonizing and crying victim too....she has been doing that since she was at least 7!!!!  It never ends Sad

Jcksjj's picture

Mine already does all that minus the bi thing. But shes managed to find videos regarding that on YouTube kids so I'm sure that's coming. I know that was one of BMs schticks. And her grandpa is legit gay. I hope SD is gay for real actually - no accidental grand skids then.

Jcksjj's picture

Oh yes, she will do all of that. But I meant BMs basking in the "oh what a cute little girl" type comments is coming to an end. 

NoThanks's picture

LOL! We just might have the same SD! That kid was a hot mess! Like your SD, she was signed up for every damn sport/activity under the sun. SO and his ex would actually sign her up for supplemental activities to help her get better at the ones she was already in!!! Cheerleading- Let’s add a tumbling class. Choir- Let’s take her to a vocal coach. Volleyball- Let’s put her volleyball camp. Mind you, none of her sports/activities were big league/competitive/travelling teams. Just recreational, sign up/no try-outs teams. It was so insane that she was being taxied by her adoring parents to multiple activities in the same evening. There was no family balance. Everything was centered around her. And she was still a total narc on top of all that. Being that she’s now obese due to being so overindulged, she’s refusing to participate in any sports that require a decent amount of running. Running makes her cry. Literally. So now most of her activities are non-sports. And she continues to balloon in weight. As much effort, time and money as her parents dedicate to her activities, nobody will lift a finger to get her to a dietician, restrict her food intake or buy healthy food. It’s all so sad and total parental failure.