Is she really that bad?
I'm not around kids all that often, especially ones my ODS and SDs age (8/9). So sometimes I start to question if SD is really that bad or if shes maybe a little more normal for her age than I think and theres another reason she drives me up the wall.
But then I'll meet other kids for whatever reason that instantly come across as nice, likeable kids and I'm shocked at the difference and think "yep, it really just is her personality that I find difficult."
Which makes me feel less guilty on one hand, but then on the other hand makes me kind of sad that my husband's kid cant be one of those kind, likeable kids and the chances that I'll grow to like her at this point are slim to none.
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SD23 is a beeyotch and has
SD23 is a beeyotch and has always been a beeyotch. Even DH says she was "the biggest PITA" when she was little: argumentative, instigating BS, doing what she could to get her siblings in trouble... Sometimes little arseholes grow up to be big arseholes.
I feel the same way
SD is "not that bad," but she really is that irritating. And same...I'll see other kids the same age (or younger!) and they're so sweet and polite. Granted, I know kids act differently at home vs in public, but in public, SD is pretty much the same. I get you can't control all of your kid's behaviors, but it seems like I am surrounded by kids where "please" and "thank yous" have just been drilled into them to be automatic. I think maybe bc we didn't raise them to our standards, and we don't have that same biological level of tolerance, is why they annoy us so...lol
I've also seen SD with her friends and OMG is she bossy.
Yep mine is bossy too. She
Yep mine is bossy too. She loves to tell ODS who is the same age what to do in her most condescending voice. "You need to be a helper" "dont do that to the dog" (all he was doing was hugging the dog) on and on. Idk how many times I've told her shes not the boss.
hahaha, SD7 likes to tell
hahaha, SD7 likes to tell that to all my little cousins...who are just TODDLERS. "You need to share." Um, no, YOU need to share with the babies...
I just remembered a text I didn't reply to yesterday from my SO. "She's so bosy. [sic]" He always throws out these random comments with no references or context, and I was too busy to ask him to clarify. Recently, we've started inviting this little girl from across the street over to play with SD (hallelujah! getting some time back to ourselves). I wonder if he was referring to SD...I assume "bosy" was supposed to be "bossy." LOLOLOLOL
Oh yeah I've caught SD
Oh yeah I've caught SD yelling at her toddler cousin at MILs house when she thought no one could hear. She also likes to encourage the other kids to go into the rooms they aren't supposed to. All of them are younger than her except my ODS.
Same here. Sometimes I think
Same here. Sometimes I think to myself maybe I'm being too harsh and expecting too much of a child of her age. But then I see other kids her age, and even kids younger than her and they are much better behaved and likeable. Shitty behaviour aside, we just don't get on as people. She's a carbon copy of her mother in personality, temperament and intelligence (basically all the stuff that matters). If she didn't look a little like DH it'd be a wonder if she was his at all. What really wrote her off as a person for me is when she was consistently bullying other children, particularly ones that were younger. She even bullied my niece who was only 3; all because bitch SD was trying to control play and my niece just wanted to play with her toys how she wanted to.
I also basically could have
I also basically could have written this. It's crazy to me how DH can not stand hardly talking to BM but think SD is amazing when they're practically the same person. Bonding is powerful I guess.
BM had a DNA test done because she wasnt sure of paternity - if she hadnt theres no way I would guess SD was his. She literally does not have even one of his features. When we go places in public people never realize shes part of our family and comment on us having all boys.