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MIL attends the birthday party

Jcksjj's picture

Shockingly, MIL and FIL showed up to DS3s birthday party. Even more shockingly- there were no mention of or questions about SD not being there. And MIL appeared quite sheepish. 

So best guess is that she deleted DH and I in a fit of anger and now feels stupid. Still not 100% what that anger was about. 

On the BM front, SD is now up to 19 tardies and 4 absences this school year. Last week tardy every single day. Mother of the year is doing great.

All of SDs tiktok videos this week have been about gay pride. I'm not sure if she actually knows what that means or if she just thinks it's a trend and likes rainbows. 

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tog redux's picture

The big question is - did she spend more time with your DH per the counselor's "recommendations"?

Jcksjj's picture

Haha - she won't be here until weekend after next again so we'll see. 

I don't think DH had any plans on playing legos, anyway. Not sure if I put this in any previous posts, but before the claims of him ignoring SD he had been trying to get her out of her room more on his own and it was met with rolled eyes and annoyance from SD. So I don't think he's very keen on the idea of trying again now that it's being pushed on him.

Also, the counselors degree is apparently a Masters of Education. I'm confused how that would qualify her in any way to do parent child counseling.

tog redux's picture

Yeah, she's not a real counselor.

I still think she's seeing SD through BM, and doesn't want you guys to know. That's why she's sheepish and that's why she didn't ask about SD - she doesn't need to get info through you guys anymore.

Jcksjj's picture

She for sure talks to SD directly at BMs house through messenger kids. Which I don't love because it's tied to BMs Facebook account and she can read it all. 

ndc's picture

In our district the counselors have a Masters of Education in school counseling. Some did their bachelors in Psychology. The only one who seems to have a different education is the school psychologist for the high school, who has a PhD in Psychology. (Your post piqued my curiosity so I looked it up on our district website).

I doubt these school counselors are qualified for traditional counseling.

tog redux's picture

Yeah, here they call those "guidance counselors" and there are clinical social workers who do more of the mental health stuff counseling stuff.

Jcksjj's picture

I believe she's a guidance counselor yes. I know the school district works with an outside therapy office for kids with IEPs stating they need more help so I'm doubting theres a school psychologist.

tog redux's picture

Here, school psychologists only do testing for IEPs, and social workers see kids with minor mental health challenges, then refer out the ones with more significant issues.  This guidance counselor overstepped her role, IMO.

Jcksjj's picture

Essentially BM is wasting several people's time and energy to get her drama fix/revenge/whatever. DHs, SDs and the counselors.

I guess they're tying in working on her classroom behaviors too, but she needs more help than a school counselor for that also because her need for attention is really too much for her to not act on

AgedOut's picture

didn't get the reaction she wanted and is eating crow now. I do the same, block me on FB and you won't hear from me on it, you'll just have to live without me on there. 

Jcksjj's picture

I'm not sure what she thought the reaction was gonna be. Crying? Begging to let us continue to see her inspirational quotes she posts without realizing the irony of them?

Survivingstephell's picture

When she sends those friend requests again just delete them. Give her what she asked for.  Idiot woman.  You have the upper hand now. 

lieutenant_dad's picture

Makes me wonder if BM told MIL to pound sand, too, and she now realizes she's up the creek without a paddle. My MIL would behave similarly when she and ET were on the outs. Only difference, I think, is my MIL wasn't good at hiding her hand. She'd actually complain to DH that she and ET were fighting and was withholding the boys like DH was going to swoop and save the day.

Nope. DH has kept it all at arm's length. MIL gets to see the boys precisely when DH allows her to on his time. She's likely eating crow now that the SSs live with us because DH isn't facilitating a relationship between her and his kids.