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The longest SD has been away

Jcksjj's picture

This is the longest SD had been away from our house since I've known her. BM said she wanted to keep her during the original 2 weeks that school was cancelled. Plus she was at the inlaws the weekend before. So by time time it's our week again she will have been gone for the majority of the month. I still have no idea why BM has done a 180 and keeps asking to have her for extra full weeks, but obviously we're not going to fight her on it. There's no reason for her to sit in the house with me all day instead of being at her moms.

Honestly, despite the anxiety and stress because of the current crisis, being home with just my kids for this extended period of time has been fantastic. I still don't understand how I've lived with a kid for nearly half her life and have zero bond to her (and vice versa). But this is proof - it's just not there. I don't miss her the slightest bit. 

I'm hoping BM will ask (or agree to) switch to an EOW schedule at least until school is done. The homeschool stuff that just started this week is more involved then I expected and I don't feel like being responsible for setting up all the video calls and making sure shes doing her homework. I barely have time to get through ODS' since the younger 2 kids are at such demanding ages.  DH is still working since hes supposedly "essential" and won't have the time to do it either. Not sure we should text BM and ask her if she is able to be at home with her right now (she likely is) or wait for her to say something first...

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Chmmy's picture

If only the skids would have isolated at their mom's house. I would have selfishly wished for this to never end.

This only shows me I hate the skids, all 4 of them. I speak as little as possible to them. Maybe a few sentences a day if anything.

Jcksjj's picture

FOUR!? 

Dear god.

ETA: my mom actually mentioned today how last time she visited SD sat and refused to talk to or look at anyone and how she thought it was weird because other times shes been absolutely begging for attention. I told her yep, that's what shes like the majority of the time shes at our house- too good to acknowledge anyone. And then she said "well it's hard if she wont engage." Nope - I actually prefer it that way and it's worse if she engages because it's all lying, drama and manipulation. I talk to her as little as possible so as to avoid things being twisted by her and because its nearly always a negative interaction. 

Her being gone of course is ideal. The mood is much lighter in the house- even DH.

Missnyc's picture

I haven't seen SD for 2 weeks and it's the least stressful week I've had in 2 years!!! I hope the virus go away fast but SD stays away forever lol

but she still finds a way to act up and DH ends up having to go make her do her homework because "she only listens to daddy". That adds more work for me since I have to work from home and watch our 2 y.o. But I will take that any day over she stays over in our apt again! Wink

Kee-khe's picture

Ooo, I'm trying to figure out how to make our visitation schedule EOW Rather than every weekend as well, once this is all over too. Lol let me know how it goes with you and any tips you may have. I told DH a couple nights ago that I want to have some me weekends for MY family to enjoy too (DH, Ds, me) without having to worry about pickups and drop offs for SD (yuck). 

DH works alot during the weeks and rarely gets free time for us to spend together. I'm a SAHM as my baby is only 6 months and hardly leave the house. (Of course I know I can't now either, I refer to non-pandemic times) so it would be nice to get some weekends to spend stepkid free with my little family. 

What to do, what to do...