It's the thought that counts
So MIL and FIL did end up dropping off gifts on the front steps, just much later than I thought they would.
1 gift for ODS and 1 for the younger 2 to share. Probably about 20 bucks each. This isn't about the actual dollar amount - DHs step gma sent each of the kids just a coloring book and that was just fine with me. Because EACH kid got the same. Granted we don't know what they gave SD, but we all know damn well it wasn't just one gift. I'm sure it was comparable to Easter when SD got a big basket and a brand new bike while my kids got a small bag of m&ms. Or the $120 OTHER bike that SD got at our house compared to the other kids getting things like plastic balls. Or in August when she sent SD a bunch of new clothes and nothing here. Or all the times she's bought SD clothes and "couldn't find" boys clothes. Or the wonderful picture of only SD that DH got 2 years ago from them.
Theyre gross. Good thing our kids will have a great Christmas and remain unaware of their crap, but still. They're gross.