Inlaws and BM feel like threats
So I've just had the epiphany that the reason I can't just move on from things that the inlaws and BM do is that they feel like threats that I need to always be on the lookout for. Threats to our stability, my marriage and kids, and happiness. BM, SD and MIL would all be thrilled if DH and I were to divorce so they can both try to be number one again. MIL has made it clear that SD is her number one priority, and it doesn't matter how it affects my kids. Same with SIL. BM obviously is a threat to our stability with her up and down behavior and wanting to change custody arrangements whenever it suits her. I do trust DH now, so that helps. But still. That's alot of outside forces working against us. There's more than one reason the divorce rate is so high if you have kids from a previous relationship.
Anyone else feel this way?