Cleaning out SDs room feels great
SD and BM both hang on to everything. Every wrapper, every box, every junky little toy. I can't stand clutter.
SDs room is eventually going to be DS2s room, since SD no longer wants to live with us and currently my youngest 2 kids share a room. So in preparation for that, and because there's no reason to have a bunch of crap piled up in my house for a kid that doesn't want to be here or appreciate any of the money that's been spent on her, all the garbage has been thrown out. Her stuff that she actually needs/mementos put neatly in containers. So therapeutic. Although I think it did bring up a little renewed resentment to see all the things we've given her or done for her that she turned her nose up at because none of it was good enough.
I think DH also feels a small sense of guilt that she won't have a bedroom anymore, but it's not like we kicked her out - she's choosing not to be here (and enabled by BM). Why keep a room empty for her to be here at most 2 days a month?