The birthday card
SD got a birthday card from my mom. She wasn't here when my mom dropped it off so it got set on the dresser. While cleaning off the dresser I moved the card to a box of papers on the kitchen counter.
DH was looking through the box of papers for a bill. He noticed SDs birthday card wasn't in it and asked if I gave it to her. I said uhh Idk I think so. In an annoyed voice because I know damn well if it was one of the other kids' card he wouldn't have been worried about it. Then he went back and looked again and said "well you must have thrown both away (the card and the bill) because they're not in here.
I get pissed that he's accusing me of this and it turns into a fight because I tell him he owes me an apology for accusing me, especially after I wasted my time helping her with distance learning today, instead of insisting her mom do it this week like she did in the spring, or making it so she has to rush to get it all done in the little time DH is home. He sarcastically said im sorry.
So guess where the stupid card was? Behind the basket? Did DH eat his words at this? Of course not, he went off about how he was a victim because I accused him of not caring about the other kids by saying if it was their card he wouldn't be so worried. Also tried to turn it into that he was saying I might have by accident. Yeah, right.
This is reason 10,765 why I hate when SD is here. Walking on eggshells. If I had accidentally thrown the card away (possible, its happened before when I put papers in the wrong pile) then I would never hear the end of it.
At some point during the fight I called him a POS. And he said that if I was going to call him names that hes done. So I told him he's an asshole. And I don't really care anymore, if he wants to divorce over a stupid card whatever. He is an asshole. Then awhile later he wanted to discuss it more civilly. I don't even want to anymore. I'm so over dealing with acting exactly like his lunatic mother that I'm not even going to bother.
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Ugh! That's annoying.
Ugh! That's annoying.
i actually throw skids crap away all the time. I've tossed many birthday and Christmas gifts that have literally sat un touched for 6 months from the day they got it...then on month 7 skids ask where is "whatever". DH knows I've thrown it out but knows better than to go off on me about it.....thank god.....but don't think he doesn't try and replace it.....cause he's also on egg shells over here.
90 percent of what I toss is never even mentioned.....
Might as well start doing
Might as well start doing that here
Sigh...
I know exactly what you ate talking about. It is so tiresome. My DH83 still does this with SD58, protecting her "fragile ego" from any perceived slight. SD58's ego is about as fragile as an elephant's hide. But he continues to treat her like a sensitive blossom. Meanwhile, I'm expected to soldier on. The other kids get sick of it, too. They roll their eyes when he praises her to the skies for doing the normal adult things they do automatically, "She keeps her car so clean", "She's so good with her GKs", " She loves animals", etc. Sigh..
Its so weird how him and his
Its so weird how him and his family act like she's this fragile little thing thats about to break at any second over any little thing when shes actually pretty unemotional (other than when she used to fake cry alot to get her way). I guarantee she would never have thought twice about if my mom gave her a card or not.
I know
It's hard to understand why DH83 treats her like this. I think it's because she is "emotional", in her case, another word for unstable. She can cry at the drop of a hat, gets worked up over stupid stuff, believes her own lies and fantasies. Funny, since I dont respond to any of this stuff, including the tears, she (mostly) talks like a 58yo petson to me. I guess because it's his DD, he is affected. It's odd because in the rest of his life, he doesnt take any BS and has quite the BS detector. Oh well.
I wouldn't do bupkis for him
I wouldn't do bupkis for him to help with his kid. You have a couple of your own to be concerned about, he can deal with Precious.
Yeah I agree. Once in awhile
Yeah I agree. Once in awhile I relapse and do something helpful and immediately get reminded of why I shouldnt bother. BMs probably going to be taking her all the days she has distance learning, same as in the spring.